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writes:I'm really confused with myself at the moment because of something that happened last night. I'll give a few details before I go on about last night tho. I've just left school and there's a guy who is my mate who used to flirt loads at school. He's not one of the popular guys...he's seen as a geek but he's sweet and funny and he's not like extremely minging with loads of spots and all that.For the past few months we've become good mates and he's always been a flirt...he's a lil bit sexual and all that like he'd stroke my leg and stuff and hold my hand...those sort of things. And we'd always joke about sex n stuff...you know, the usual banter!Since we've left school, we've been talking on MSN alot at night as it happens and he's been really flirtatious! Calling me babe and darling and randomly saying "I love you". He's also...I don't know how to say this but shown me things on his webcam that other people haven't seen lol. He's called me special a few timesHe asked me if I wanted to lose my virginity to him (we are both 16 and virgins) and it was quite serious but I think we decided neither of us are ready yet. But it was gonna be my birthday present to him (that's kind of a joke thing we had going) as it's his bday in the next few days.I guess I secretly like the attention he gives me but sometimes he annoys me alot. He also flirts with my other mates...like hugs them tight n that stuff cos that's his personality...but he does it loads more with me.So last night...it was our prom. We talked a bit...he was flirting a little bit as usual...nothing extreme. The last song was a slow song and he danced with my mate cos they have been best friends since primary school. Then my other mate grabbed him for like 20 seconds. He didn't dance with me cos by the time I'd finished dancing with my mates the song finished but I'm pretty sure we'd have had a little dance if there was more time.Then we all went back to my mates for an after party...there was 12 of us. All girls and him. We were sat in her garden in the early hours of the morning all playing truth or dare. He was then dared to kiss me and he jumped straight up and walked over to me and I didn't want it to happen cos I dont fancy him at all...but he kissed me...it wasn't just a peck on the lips it was like a proper smooch and lasted longer than I thought. I thought I'd hate it and feel sick but I didn't! I really liked it! I don't know if it's cos I just haven't kissed anyone for a while or whether just felt right and good with him.Since then I just haven't stopped thinking about him and I just want to kiss him again! I don't know if he fancies me or what tho. Plus I'm moving house in a few months and going to a college there so I won't even see him and he says he's really gonna miss me. I just don't know what to do cos I feel I just want to kiss him again and he had no objections at all about kissing me last night, he was all for it. I feel I should tell him that I really like him suddenly (I think I do anyway) or maybe I should just flirt loads on MSN. We live in different villages so I prob won't see him anymore anyway. I just feel so down that I suddenly really like him and want to kiss him again and I just don't think I can.Please give me advice on what to do here.Thank you.
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reader, xcharlottex +, writes (30 June 2008):
When you're next on msn to him cheekily ask him "so when do you plan to kiss me next? ;)" Or something along those lines...get his reaction from that, cos if he rejects you you could quite easily pass it off as just a joke...or it could quite easily push you in the step t making it something more.
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reader, Hopeful4evaxx +, writes (29 June 2008):
 I think with a situation like this you need to let this boy know how you feel. Theres no point beating around the bush, ecspecially as your moving away. Long distance relationships do work even if there harder, but in the long run they make you stronger. I honestly feel you should at least discuss your feelings with him before he thinks your not interested. Let him no you enjoyed the kiss and that you would like to take it further, even if it is taking it slow. He if says it was just for fun and he only sees you as a friend, dont push him, just accept it and dont lose him altogether. After all your feelings changed from friend to something more than that rather quickly so maybe he's have to?.xx
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