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writes:please help me, im 16 and im reaching the end of my teather, my dad keeps stressing me out by having ago at me for everything that goes wrong in his life and as my uncle and nan are extrimly ill im quite emotinal at the moment and my dad knows this and he keeps going on at me. i really want to leave home but i need parents consent and they wont let me go. i hate living at home with him and it really bugs me that he isnt even my real dad he's just my dad by law and i hate him. is there anything i can do to stop these fights apart from talking to him or my mum because ive tried that and it made things worse. thanks for takin the time to listen.
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reader, sbw1989 +, writes (27 July 2006):
 It's unfair of him to treat you like this, but odds are that he's feeling emotional about this too- your uncle and nan are his family too- be it blood related or in-law. He's probably as stressed as you are. But it's not fair of him to put you down, as that just makes you both feel worse! I would try and keep talking to them both: they'll have to listen to you at some point! I'm sure it won't come to emancipation. It won't be long before you're 18, when you can legally leave home- just keep strong, chin up and grin and bear it. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2006): I dont think I would encourage to to leave home at 16 as it's a big bad world out there, i would say you are all under stress due to the family illnesses and maybe your mum cannot cope and your dad is trying ( not very well) at keeping things together. Now at 16 you think you are a grown up but your just testing the waters if you know what I mean, yes you are emontional more so because of your gran and uncle but these things are out of your control why don't you ask parents if there is any way you can help try to pull together they will see you as being more mature as you say when you spoke to then you made it worse maybe they just can't deal with more problems just now aslo speak with a family member but if you do feel you are being abused by your dad has this been going on a long time maybe you could ask to move in with family member and see how that goes.
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (27 July 2006):
 You need to get help. Keeping the abuse a secret will not protect you from being abused - it only makes it more likely that the abuse will continue.
You need talk to someone you can trust - a family member, a friend, a trusted teacher, a doctor, or an adult who works with youth at school or in a place of worship. Many teachers and counselors, for instance, have training in how to recognize and report abuse.
Telephone directories list local child abuse and family violence hot-line numbers that you can call for help. There's also Childhelp USA at (800) 4-A-CHILD ([800] 422-4453).
You might need to find a safe place to live temporarily. It is never easy to have to leave home, but it's sometimes necessary to be protected from further abuse. You can leave home to stay safe and you can find local shelters listed in the phone book or you can contact an abuse helpline. You might be able to stay with a relative or friend.
http://www.preventchildabuse.org
http://www.childhelpusa.org
GOOD LUCK!
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