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writes: so my girlfriend and I have been together for about 2 years and 2 months. We have both done the cheating thing, well maninly me but her big thing was talkin to another guy on the internet and i found out. and i mean talking to him. we have managed to work through things and weve only gotten closer and closer but i still have trust issues with her.. I would never ever hurt her again i have completely changed, but im also 2 years older and idk if she has changed completely from her old self or not. she is going to the beach for spring break with her friend in a couple weeks so what can i do and what can she do to ensure she has a fun time but makes it easy on me too???
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): right I made the mistake first and i broke it off and told her what happened because i really hated myself for it and i was ashamed. i had sex with a another girl after we had dated bout a month.. i didnt really think a long term relationship was down our alley. All she has done is kissed a guy at the same beach...with the same friend last year. We fought all week because i kept saying i didnt trust her and i compeltely blame myself for that kiss. Well now its like i know shes changed ive seen her phone a lot and her facebook, but spring break is completely different. I keep bringing it up and she just keeps getting mad bc she doesnt think i trust her, but i feel sick if i dont talk about it bc it helps me. What can i do to not only feel better but to bring it up without her geting mad. Would it be bad to not set "rules" but if maybe if she cud jus call me at night or just kinda let me know wats goin on from time to time, is that wrong to ask?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): Okay, so you have both cheated on each other, I expect she also has trust issues with you! You dont say what you did to cheat on her - were you talking to other women or were you having sex with them? She was only talking on line, yes it is also cheating but it sounds like she cheated on you because you cheated on her. Your insecurity because of your cheating is showing as you now dont trust her [or yourself for that matter] whilst she is away on spring break.
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