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writes:I am 23 years old and my boyfriend is 25. We are in a long distance relationship and we frequently have phone sex.We usually talk about what we would like to do to each other, what we have done, etc. He also initiates a roleplay where I will fabricate a story relating a sexual encounter that happened recently (e.g. the previous night) but I have to tell him the story as if it actually happened. He likes to focus on images where I am being a slut and have indiscriminate sexual activities with numerous men.He abhors sluts and sexual promiscuity in general. He is also a very jealous person and keeps close tabs on me. He doesn't want me to be a slut but sometimes I think he's having a better time masturbating over the phone when we roleplay the slut scenarios than when we just talk about us having sex.Is he a closet cuckold?
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reader, Dick Diva  +, writes (15 July 2007):
Cuckolding can be a defined as a designer relationship which in turn can turn out to be quite loving and long term. Your boyfriend's "tabs" that he keeps on you might just be nothing more than checking if his desire to be a cuckold to the one he loves has happened yet.
I would just ask him straight out if he wants to be a cuckold. If he is not too shy and afraid to say yes, it means his desire to be cuckolded runs very deep and may be hard to dispel.
I guess the bigger question here is, could you live life cuckolding the one you love? Think about it. living promiscuously as you want in the safety of a defined relationship where he is completely faithful.
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (31 March 2007):
 Remember that the brain is the largest and most important sex organ in the body. That's where it really happens. He may fantasize you as the guest of honor at a gang bang while in real life he's having you measured for a chastity belt.
Those fantasies are harmless enough. Keep talking. It will probably keep him sizzling while he's with you.
One additional aspect of it that you probably should talk about with him when the two of you are together, though. You should try to get him to open up and tell you if he has any other secret fantasies about one on one sex with you that he might actually want to act out in real life. Lots of guys do, and they're just really too shy to ask.
If you give him permission to ask for what he really wants from you, just for the two of you to do together, it might get at something that's even hotter for him than the slut routine but that he's keeping buried because he's afraid of how you'll react. Give him permission to ask, and if you can't deal with what he wants then find a kind and loving way to say that you would like to but you can't do it his way but try to find something that's close to what he wants that you CAN do.
And good luck.
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reader, Cag Lee "Apollo" Adarma  +, writes (31 March 2007):
 Hey,
what the heck is a cuckold??
anywho, of course. A wise man once wrote " i thought i wanted a good girl who talked dirty words now those dirty words are creul and kinda hurt"
fact is guys like the "idea" of a girl being...not promiscuous but...dirty, being open to everything. But they don;t actually want them to be. So when you two make love, i hope he treats you like a person that he loves, like a lady, with affection. However, in role play- that fantasy may come out, pardon the pun.
If your concerned about it start lightening that particular role-play. If you don;t like it tell him you don't like it. If he acts like an arse about it...start assessing some things..
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