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writes: I have been going out with my boyfriend for about 1yr and 3 months. in july we moved in together, in about october i decided that i wanted to move back out i didn't want to live with my boyfriend anymore. about a week after we split - this was my idea. i soon realised that i couldn't be without him. we are back together now and have been for the past month everything was going well. he said to me yesterday that he wanted a few weeks break away from me to chill out. he said that he is sick of picking me up and dropping me off everyday. Do you think that he is going off me? or jsut wants some space?
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reader, cd206  +, writes (16 January 2007):
 Relationships are always so much harder after a break up. Possibly things have been difficult between you since you got back together and he wants some time to re-evaluate what it is he wants from life. Give him the space. You won't change the fact that he has to think by being clingy, you're just going to leave him with that as his last impression of you before he goes to clear his head. Be supportive and give him plenty of space and just trust that he'll find his way back to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2007): Could be a bit of both. We are not in the middle of your relationship, we do not know what he is thinking. You need to ask him. Also, remember -you were in his shoes briefly...how did you feel when you left him? Why did you go? In any case for him to leave, means he needs a break for reasons that you need to find out about..from him. When we love someone we don't just leave a relationship because we are sick of " picking up and dropping off everyday" no matter how much you love him and you want to make this relationship work, if your bf does not want to remain with you and does not actively devote himself to loving you back, for now-you have no choice but to let him go. Hopefully over time, he might do the same thing you did and realize how much he misses you and you two can reconcile. You will have to just let him go..you have no choice. But in my opinion, if you have both left this relationship for weak, almost trivial reasons. Reasons that most committed, loving couples can work through. I don't think your relationship is a strong, solid one to begin with. A good, solid relationship is when two people are spend their days thinking of each other and wanting to be with one another. You two are just sort of playing house and dancing around each other , not sure what the other wants. Let him go his way and give this thought. And while he's gone, rethink about what you want out of this, too. I wish you both luck...take care.
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