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writes:I have been going out with my boyfriend for a little under a year now and I love him to death. Our sex life is the only thing concerning me at the moment. We have great sex but he doesn’t last very long. He only lasts about 2 or 3 minutes and then he cums. Sometimes I don’t even come close before he said hes going to come. I don’t want to use any of those services to make him last longer, but has anyone got any tips to make him last?thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): when my husband gets close he thinks about things that turn him off. Or we slow down... He waits for me to orgasm everytime. Well, unless it's been awhile ;) then we just go twice.
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reader, Lilly Rose  +, writes (3 September 2008):
 Try more foreplay for you...or there r creams he can use to slow down the process of cumin....also if he feels he is about to cum make him stop and let him do abit more foreplay on you...use it to your advantage hehe
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (3 September 2008):
 On the condom issue, I guess every boy tries this on and yes it is true that it doesn't feel quite as good. There are reasons though why quite so many billions of condoms are bought and used every year. I've been married for 10 years, I've got 3 kids and I'll still be using a condom tonight because although it doesn't feel quite as good it feels a whole lot better than another year of changing nappies and another set of school fees and having to get a bigger car. Don't put too much faith in the pull out method.
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reader, boopi +, writes (3 September 2008):
boopi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhaha yeah, the toliet roll idea seems to be funny but i dont no if it will work or not. Usually when he is about to cum i pull out and wait for a bit untill he thinks he can last longer again, but this rarely works. i have heard things like tiredness can make you cum quickly aswell... is this true?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2008): *He* may not like going a second round, but I bet you would.
Your boyfriend is being very selfish; he ought to be ensuring your orgasms as well as his, and he's not - if he's satisfied, that seems to be all that matters to him. If he's got a quick trigger and also uses good oral/hand skills to get you off, that's fine; if he's got a quick trigger and figures what's good for him is also good for you, well then you need to have a talk with him about fairness and mutual pleasures.
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (3 September 2008):
 A technique - when he's about to come he's probably thinking baout very rude things and enjoying himself a lot! Think of something COMPLETELY off topic, like 'toilet role' and turn him off for a second. If you turn him off as needs be, it'll take him another 2-3 minutes to get going again. To be honest, it'll turn you off shouting such things, so explain to him that when he thinks he's going to come, he should think of some really unsexy things!
Whether it'll work, I don't know! It's quite funny though :).
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reader, boopi +, writes (3 September 2008):
boopi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe dont usualy use a condom to start with, we just pull out when he is ready to cum. when we do use a condom he does last longer but it isnt as good for him. And i dont think he likes going a second round!!
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reader, baddogbj +, writes (3 September 2008):
I honestly don't see that it can be great sex if he only lasts 2 to 3 minutes. Having said that, from the fact that you say that it is great sex, its obvious that you do love him. It also seems apparent that he fancies you rotten too and that's a great start.
Part of the answer is that he probably shouldn't even be getting started until you have cum a couple of times. Encourage him to go down on you and take care of you for at least 10 - 15 minutes before you even slip the condom on him. You don't want to be forcing him in to this but a) make sure everything is neat and tidy and yummy looking down there b) make the suggestion and c) be hugely appreciative when he does. He'll soon get the message and come to realise that it is one of the great pleasures in life.
Of course, if he does come quickly then give him a bit of back rub and a 10 minute break and then suck and rub a little life back into him and have another go. He will surely last longer the second time around.
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reader, boopi +, writes (3 September 2008):
boopi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionby the way i am actually a girl - im just using my boyfriends account.
but yeah any tips or advice woud be great
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