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writes:Hiya,Me and my gf have been going out for just over a year and have decided we are ready for sex. We are now both 17 and have decided not to plan it as it is more likely to make her nervous and start getting scared if she knows it will be happening at a certain time. Instead we have just decided to carry on as normal and if it happens it happens and if we feel we want it we will do it. I think thats best as she can get very nervous about things. Its just how do we initiate it? Not sure if that is the correct word to use but in other words how do we start off? What do we do? How do we from just sitting there and kissing to actualy doing it and when would it more likely happen? Would it be in a certin place or what? I do live with her and her mum, dad and brother and have for 7 months due to me having problems with my mum so we do sleep together btw so its not as if we have to wait till we get somewhere to ourselves.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (3 December 2007):
Of course you'll have to wait for the house to be empty or at night and just cuddle and kiss and go with the flow.Just a tip don't rush things.When you are sure she's ready to kiss then you can begin to kiss her and move step by step but take it slowly to help her calm her nerves.At a certain point you'll have to take total control and kiss her more passionately and also use your hands.When properly aroused,she'll forget how shy she is and you'll finally do it.Bottom line is to learn how to really arouse her and you'll never need plans again.Sometimes she may not just be in the mood.It's normal for girls due to their cycles.All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): You could start making out with each other for a start. And don't stop when you realise its gonna lead to being naked, and that two naked teenagers usually means happy times had for all.Just go with the flow and it'll happen. Just make sure the rest of the family is out or go out to some 'make-out creek' and do what teenagers are want to do.Flynn 24
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reader, bqagirl2692  +, writes (3 December 2007):
 What you should do is make sure the both of you are alone because she will get nervous knowing the fact that the both of you can be interrupted at any moment. Make her feel comfortable and dont pressure her if she is not ready at the moment or else she would not pleasure it as much as she would like. If it is right then it would happen so dont work yourself over on how to start it off. Just make sure you treat her with respect and do it with love. Dont force her into doing something she isnt quite comfortable with because it is her first time. Make sure she gives you the " GO" signal that lets you know that she's ready. Make sure she feels special and cherish her in that moment. I know the both of must have had moments where you've made out so that isnt anything new.Start off there and this time maybe you could get into more touching than you both usually have. Close your eyes and go with the flow. Eventually that would lead more to what the both of you have already gone. Be careful because you wouldnt want to lose her parents trust. Good luck!
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reader, maggie1987 +, writes (2 December 2007):
 well maybe you should try having a night in front of the t.v as in a night for both of you to get snuggled up and if you drink then maybe have a little drink and a laugh an share good memories both of you have had together and then maybe speak about how yous feel about each other and also tell each other what u like about them and how much u love them and maybe it will just happen naturally as your expressing your true feelings. but if you dont drink alcohol then please dont do so because ive said its just most young people these says do tend to drink alcohol as im only 19 i know as i did it myself
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reader, sweetlaura2008 +, writes (2 December 2007):
 i suggest you arrange to cook her a meal so make her feel comfortable for the environment she is in, puts on some gentle quiet music which is making you both carm and relaxed. Use some candles to make it more romantic and more inclosed and will make her feel more at home to make her think its just you and her in the world and you love each other so much that after making love you know you did it for the right reasons. If you do what i have suggested then it will become more natural and comfortable for the both of you but make sure noone else is around when your just about to make one of the biggest commitments to someone you love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): When the parents are out and the house is empty would be a good time because she'll be less worried about anyone hearing.Be up in her room, candles, or soft lighting, sitting together, kissing and cuddling, then if you're both hot and enjoying it, and you feel the moment's right then gently run your hand up the inside of her top at the back, whilst gently kissing her and if the moment is right then stuff will just happen =] you'll both end up feeling each other, exploring, and then clothes will just fall off! and then stuff will happen! I dont know how far you've been already but alot of foreplay before actual sex is really important, she will be far calmer and enjoying herself, and she'll also be ready when you do actually go for it.Take your time, be relaxed and it will just happenGood luck =] xxx
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