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writes: My boyfriend works on weekends, from 3-8 (sometimes 3-11) and I never have any time with him on Saturday or Sunday. It's a little upsetting because I never get to do couple-y things with him like go to the movies on a Saturday night or go out to dinner or go to a park. He works at a movie theater place so it's not a big deal to him. He doesn't work on weekdays (with an exception to Thursdays and sometimes other single weekdays) and as soon as we get out of school, he feels like we have to get as much from each other as possible because we don't really hang out on weekends. He doesn't take into consideration that sometimes I'm too tired to hang out, that I have stuff to study for and that I have homework. We're seniors, and he doesnt do ANY homework, or study or anything. It affects me because I have to squeeze in 30 minutes of studying before I fall over on my bed instead of NOT hanging out with him and studying properly. Sometimes I'm too tired and when he leaves, I just go to sleep without doing anything productive. I don't want to blame him but it's become a pattern. We leave school at 2:30, go eat, come to my house. And then I'm too tired to hang out. I have an early sleeping schedule (10 max) and he gets upset that I get tired so easily. I'd rather take my time and relax on a weekend with him then see him every weekday and get nothing out of it. What can I do? I don't want to hurt his feelings Reply to this Question
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reader, Auntie E  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 Oh honey! You just answered your own question! Look at your last line - lazy and unproductive? Again why are you with this guy? He is draging you down. That won't change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're absolutely right, Auntie E, but what can I do? This guy is unconditionally in love with me, and has dedicated all his time to me and it's making him not care about his education. I don't want to ruin my own life and be responsible for ruining someone else's. He's just very...unproductive and lazy, and it's influencing me.
Thank you Caring Guy, I'll try and do that
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (6 March 2010):
You don't want to "hurt his feelings?" Apparently he is not taking your feelings into consideration here. You are a serious student and he is not. Why are you with this guy?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 March 2010):
You and he need to agree certain times and days that you can see each other. Since he is working, it's difficult for him to make time at the weekends. Since you're studying, it's also hard for you. But you need to both make time for each other when you can. So agree times and days with him where you can meet up.
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