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writes:My boyfriend who broke up with me because of another girl is coming home, so we can basically have closure. We own a lot of things together and are beneficiaries on each other's insurance policies. So we need to sort that out. We were supposed to get married, in case you are wondering if we were crazy enough to do that. Anyway, he has chosen someone else over me and plans to migrate to live with that person...she is leaving her family as well. How do I behave with him? Should I be all cold or should I just act normal? I am still raw from the break up..it was 3 months ago. And I am not a hypocritical person to pretend well...I don't know if I can pull this off without breaking down on one of the days that we have our stuff to do. I feel like I am getting a divorce without even getting married. He is only here for a week but I know it will be a terrible week to bear. Any advice would really be appreciated. Thank
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2005): It's a tough time for you and my best advice is for you..just be yourself but keep it businesslike. Keep the visit with your ex..low-key, calm and behave classy. When it comes time, to sorting out business dealings, etc...be strong and know what you want and don't be afraid to insist that he knows clearly, what you want. In other words, don't cave in and be overly nice and weak-kneed. Be strong..and let your thoughts be known. Get what you deserve and let him know that! In the long run, after all is sorted out and he comes out on top...he will just go back to his new g/f with a smug smile..knowing he got what he wanted. Before you talk to him..study all the documents and info on all assests you can think of and if possible talk to a financial planner & your lawyer before sitting with him to hash this out. Be business like and know exactly what you want. Keep emotions out this altogether. Look out for yourself...because be doesn't care, anymore and he'll be watching his own butt. Be strong...be classy...be smart.
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