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writes: I was on vacation in Miami (from London) and I met a guy who I instantly took a strong liking to. After only a couple of hours, we slept together (I couldn't resist)We got along really well and had a lot in common and seemingly a lot of chemistry. He was also on vacation and had to leave back to Boston the following day but promised to keep in touch. He called me every day saying that he wanted to pay for a flight up to Boston for me within the next few days. I didn't believe him and was pretty skeptical dismissing it as small talk but it turns out he paid for my flight the following week. I didn't have much money left and he'd only paid for a one way ticket so I was a little scared but eventually decided to go. When I got there I was put at ease immediately and was ecstatic to see him again. We went back to his house and had the most amazing sex ever which I will never forget. The following day, we drove out to New York talking about a lot of things on the journey so it seemed that it wasn't just a sexual thing between us, we could have great conversations and fun without being intimate (Something that is quite rare with the guys I usually meet) He was a perfect gentleman and wouldn't let me pay for anything at all. He was always asking me if I was hungry etc so he was very attentive. We went to a late bar and I don't know why but I decided to call another guy from his phone. It wasn't with bad intentions, I just wanted to say hello and 'surprise, I'm in New York' kinda thing. When I told him I'd called a guy from his phone, he seemed really pissed off and told me how disprespected he'd felt, understandably, but I felt really guilty and explained myself over and over again that it was just a friend I was calling and there was nothing more to it. After that, things kind of went downhill. There was no more chemistry and no affection on his part. We went back to the hotel and got intimate but it was nothing like the times before, he just wasn't into it. I was really upset and felt sick because I thought I'd messed things up. When we woke up the following morning, things were fine again and he seemed to have forgotten all about it. He asked me what I wanted to do that day and seemed happy taking part in anything I was interested in seeing/doing. We went on a 3 hour cruise around Manhattan, we were cuddling and he was kissing my head, being really affectionate again. It felt so good. I knew I was falling for him deeply. When the cruise finished it was nearly time to head back to Boston when he recieved a phone call from the guy I'd called the night before. Even though I was next to him he didn't put me on the phone to him and was quite dismissive with the other guy. He came off the phone and was evidently pissed off. He was asking me questions like, 'what's the deal with this guy?' 'Has he tried to sleep with you before?' etc, he also explained that he shouldn't be so insecure but he is quite a jealous person. He was no longer affectionate with me again. Even in Boston, he left me at his house for a couple of hours alone, and then by the time he came back, he fell asleep on the other side of the bed without even a hug. In the morning (the day I was leaving back to miami) he snuggled up to me for a while so I was quite reassured again. But I had to get up and pack my stuff ready to leave. He didn't speak much and seemed distracted or preoccupied. He gave me a CD of his with one of the songs we'd been 'making love to' that I had asked the name of, which was quite sweet but apart from that, he didn't show any sign of if he was sad to see me leave or anything. I was feeling devastated at leaving but never showed it. I left a picture of us on his bedside table that we'd had taken in Times Square, we'd both had one done each. When we got the airport, we were rushing because I was about to miss the flight, so our goodbye was quick, a big hug, where he squeezed me really hard but no kiss. He asked me to call him when i got to Miami. When I got back I didn't feel it was right to call him immeditately because it would seem too desperate, but when I unpacked all the stuff I had taken with me, I found the picture (his one) that I'd left at his bedside neatly tucked between some of my clothes.I was really sad when I saw it and I wondered why he didn't want it, as he had no other pictures of me to remember me by. I tried to call him and left him a message with my hotel number as my cell had been disconnected but he never called.The following afternoon, I was due to fly back to London so I decided to try and call him again. I got through and He asked me why I hadn't called him the night before, which didn't make sense because surely he'd heard my voice message. He seemed quite happy to hear from me. I asked him why he'd placed HIS picture in my bag and why he didn't want it. He said that he wanted me to have it as a memory of him. Anyway, I'm back in London now, and I made a phone call to him last night (very drunk) and I don't remember much of the conversation. But I did ask why he'd seemed a little distant with me the day I was leaving. He said it was because he was a little upset to see me leave. I'd like to believe this is true because it means that he does still like me and maybe wants to see me again sometime in the future. Basically, I've fallen head over heels, and would drop everything to go and see him again and I never want to lose contact with him. But how should I go about it? How do I know if he is still interested in me? Do you think he still likes me and maybe feels the same way I do right now. I miss him so much it is unbelievable. I told him that on the phone last night. I hope I haven't scared him off, was it the right thing to do to tell him how much I missed him? Please help me, I need advice on what to do. I understand there could never be a relationship with him but I just have to see him again. I've never gotten along with someone so good who I was physically and mentally attracted to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2005): That was a very silly thing to do calling some other guy on his cell phone - How would you like it if he did the same to you - the poor guy probably thinks you are just using him for free holidays, his generous nature etc. and now thinks you already have someone back home as well. He's obviously very fond of you and must have liked you enough to pay for your visits, now he's starting to have doubts and who can blame him. If you are so keen on him take a back seat for a little while until things cool and you can work your head out - you seem to be driving yourselve crazy about this situation - keep the friendship going but don't be so FULL ON DESPERATE GIRL! Learn from your mistakes. Take Care
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reader, kim21 +, writes (2 August 2005):
That is like reading a love story. I was truly moved by it. How do you know there could never be a relationship? Ask him how he feels towards you. Try going to see him on vacation, talk through things. You never know. Stories like this one nearly always have a happy ending?
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reader, becky05 +, writes (1 August 2005):
First, im not surprised he was cross that you called another man from his phone, hadnt you taken enough of his generosity wiothout running up his phone bill calling someone else?
Giving you the picture back signifies that he wanted no memories of your time together.
It sounds like this was no more than a holiday romance.
On a final note, i would be very suspicious of a man who picks up strange women on holiday.
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