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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm in a relationship and we get into it a lot We have been together for 2 years and I flirt a lot with other guys. I have never cheated, just love the attention and I am in love with my man, I just can't seem to keep him as the only man that gives me attention he doesn't give me much at all any more and I'm at the point where I can't take it, I talk to him but he doesn't understand I feel bad.What should I do about my problem?I want us to work!!!!
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (30 August 2007):
Well you have to first realise that flirting with other guys (even if you dont actualy cheat on your bf) is just plain disrespectful. There is no excuse for it. Whether you do it because you are insecure and you need that attention to make you feel like you are loveabale, or whatever the reason is, it just isnt acceptable and your bf shoudlnt be accepting it either. Has he talked to you about it?
You need to work through what is causing you to have a such a desperate desire to have attention from all the guys...my guess is that you have some insecurities/ self esteem issues? If so, then read some books about those issues or go see a counsellor.
If you beleive its truly because your bf just isnt giving you enough attention and that maybe if he paid you a bit more you woudlnt bel ooking outside the relationship, well then talk ot him about how you would like it if he would give you more attention. However in the mean time you need to start showing a bit more respect for your bf and stop flirting with all these guys. However, personaly I beleive that a truly self confident person woudlnt have to go flirting with other guys just because her bf didnt give her enough atention...so yes work on that i think.
As for your bf not understanding, simply state the types of things you would like for him to do. Guys need clear steps, they need it spelt out for them so they can really understand. Be clear about what you are saying.
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