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writes:I'm 14. I met my boyfriend about 4 months ago and we have liked each other since the night we met. We became official about two weeks ago and i have already given him oral. He is starting to talk about sex and i want to but im scared to. He is sixteen and i know that he really wants to. I don't know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): thanks for all of the advice..i mean..he isnt pressuring me..i just know he wants to...and i dont think im ready..but im sure he'll understand..i guess i just want to wait until im sure he loves me..i mean its not like we just started dating..we've been talking for 3 months..but we are just now official..but i just want us to do it out of love..not because he is a horny 16 year old that cant stay out of my pants..
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reader, xoTrineyxo +, writes (3 December 2007):
 If you know your not ready... and you tell him then if he loves you enough he'll wait. And if he doesn't it would be smart not to give in and dump him.xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): Hiya heres my piece of advice when I was a couple years younger about 14 - 16 the pressure to loose your virginity was huge! At school people were all talking about it, but the truth is i still waited until i was 17 and it was definatly worth the wait because its not all its cracked up to be. My first time was with my boyfriend of about 3 months and we r still together now.Dont feel pressured!!! You have your whole life to have sex. X
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reader, aunt.shazza  +, writes (3 December 2007):
 I was in a realtionship at the same age as you, im still in that realtionship nearly 3 years on, we started going out when i was 13, but soon after turned 14. That is the age i first had sex, 14,and i had to do it all again i wouldnt change a thing. But you shouldnt rush into theses things we waited almost 6 months untill we eventually had sex. All that time we before we had sex we spoke about it first, and i think this shows a sense of maturaty. Now it is much more comfortable when we do have problems within our realtionship. If you really do believe this realtionship can go somewhere you would wait as this shows that you respect each other. But if he wont wait untill you are ready he really isnt worth it love, you need someone who will respect you. An next time dont put out as easy, two weeks is seriously rushing things. But dont be pressured into it, respect yourself.
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reader, Love-struck  +, writes (3 December 2007):
 i was in the same situation a few months ago, i had liked this boy for ages and i found out he felt the same way so he asked me out. 2 weeks after he started hinting about having sex (we were both 15) and i didnt feel comfortable about having it at such an early time in our relationship although a part of me wanted to because i liked him so much, after thinking about it alot i told him that i wasnt ready and that i wanted to wait he told me that he understood and respected my decision so we just keep to cuddling =) i think you should tell him that you are not fully ready you have to be 100% sure before doing some thing like that!
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reader, bqagirl2692 +, writes (3 December 2007):
 Sweetie once you give a guy a piece, they want the whole thing. He seems like he is pressuring you to the point where you feel obligated to have sex with him and you are terrified of that fact. You've only been together for two weeks. Slow down with what you do with this guy. Everything takes time. If you are scared to then its not the time for you. Dont let him pressure you into losing something that you may never get back. He doesnt care about it because if he did, he would care about how you feel and understand that you are stil young and you have plenty of time to do those things. Be careful with what you do with this guy. You dont want to end up regretting it.
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