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writes:I've been hooking up with a guy friend for about 3 months. We've become so close and I like it a lot. I've started to develope feelings if you couldn't tell and I'm not sure if he has also. He seems to care more; we work together and he's always trying to help me and do stuff for me. Last night we went to the bar, he told me he loved me and was so cute all night. Kept hugging me and holding my hand. After the bar we didn't hook up I went home and he kept telling me to be safe and kept kissing me, cute little kisses, not makeout sessions. Then before I left he asked if I was going to be there for him when he tries to go to college and do better. I'm confused. Does it seem like he's developing feelings? Thanks for reading, I know it was long and thanks for the responses!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2012): Cally is right OP, it's time to have "the talk". you know the "where are we going with this" "will we make it official?" talk.
He's the only one who can give you those answers, so just go ahead and ask him.
Otherwise you're just going to be wondering crazy things based on bullshit signs, "oh he had to readjust his crotch there, maybe that's a sign he loves me, he just scratched his left cheek, does that mean he wants kids?"
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (14 September 2012):
I think you two just need to have an honest talk about the future. If he is asking if you will be there for him when he leaves for college it would seem he is possibly considering you as a part of his future. It is very possible he is only holding back from making things official because he is concerned about how his relationship with you will be affected by attending college. If you really like him and think both of you care about each other more than as a hook-up, you should have this conversation as soon as possible.
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reader, AbigailBradbury  +, writes (13 September 2012):
 You really need to address this. I don't want to put a dampener on your happiness as it sounds like you're smitten and that's great because you sound really happy. However, you need to ask him how he actually feels about you. You are happy with the way things are, with him being all cute and you feeling safe with him knowing he cares about you. But if you carry on this way and don't know what is actually going on, someone could get hurt. You don't want to misread the signals, and I'm sure he probably feels the same. You can't let him be like that though if he's just stringing you along for someone to unload his problems on. It's really great that you're friends and can be this close but think about it, do you really want it going too far and then misread the signs and you end up making things awkward?
It definitely sounds like you're meant to be, but I'd ask him. I know it's hard and you don't want to look stupid and ruin it. I mean - it's great this way right? Yeah - but for how long? You'll be confused and think, well, can I date people or does he want me to himself?
He's your friend so I'm sure he has your best interests at heart but you need to realise he could be using you for a shoulder to cry on, so to speak.
I really hope it works out as you seem to like him alot :) xx
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reader, [?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] +, writes (13 September 2012):
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png) If you feel it and you know that feelings true then odds are you have a connection. But if you only feel he cares after you make love then I'm not sure if it's there. I do feel he has something towards you however just don't go too sudden with it, be careful for now. Just 'til you know it's what you both want and not just you. :) Take care. ~ 3.
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