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writes: Hi,i'm 12 and i'm a little worried about my first kiss....U see my boyfriend of 5 months already had his first kiss and i'm worried when me and him kiss what i'm supposed to do because i don't want to leave a bad impression.I already found out he wants to kiss me and i told him i would like to kiss him too.My friend was texting him last night on my cell and he said he was thinking about kissing me next time we see each other which is sometime this week!So i have a few questions...1.What am i supposed to do?2.Would it be wrong if i asked him to give me a hickey?3.What if he tries kissing with tongue?4.Should i put something on my lips before we see each other?5.Anything special i should say or do to him before/after the kiss?AND6.Should i kiss back if he stops?Thanks For All Your Help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2006): i am 12 too,my boyfriend is coming over this friday when it is tuesday,we haven't even kissed yet and we have been going out for 4 years,and my boyfriend has buck teeth and is short,and if you have a boyfriend like mine he is shy so i plan on making the first move.....GOOD LUCK
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2006): OkK, I'll put my answers in the same order as your questions, so here goes:
1. Kissing is natural. Just go up to him and act normal, chat to him. Don't be nervous, he's probably feeling nervous too, but he obviously likes you if he wants to kiss you. When he leans forward to kiss you, just go with it. Count yourself lucky, I didn't kiss anyone until I was fifteen!
2. I don't know what to say. What's a hickey!? (That's how bad I am)!
3. Like I said, just go with it. If he puts his tongue in your mouth then return the favour and put your tongue in his! It can't be that hard can it. On a more serious note, everyone gets pre-kiss nerves. DON'T PANIC!
4. NO!!!!! Never ever ever ever ever ever put something on your lips! My friend put lipstick on befoer she kissed once, and it ended all over her boyfriends face! He finished her for it!
5. Before the kiss, just speak to him normally, like you don't even know your going to kiss him. You know, general conversation: How are you? What have you been up to recently? Etc.
6. If he stops, and you carry on, lets face it, you're going to look a bit silly. Yes, if he stops, so should you, but who says he should contorl the kiss? When you've had enough, you can pull away too if you want. You don't want to be kissing him for half an hour!
I've answered all your questions (except 2.) but I want to give you a bit more advice. First off, you might feel a bit awkward if you leave your arms by your side, so gently put them around his neck. Plus, you don't want to bang noses, so tilt your head sideways a little bit (unless he does, you don't want to miss him and end up kissing the air, how silly would you look then?). Secondly, you need to be prepared with some good comebacks, so if he says :You're a rubbish kisser! Then just say back to him :Well let's put you in a washing maching and see how you get on! That'll shut him up!
If he doesn't say that then you don't want any awkward silences after you've finished kissing so flash him your cutest grin and say :What do you want to do now?
My last piece of kissing info is to look nice, but without looking too done up, a sort of glamorous casual look. So put on a cute t-shirt with a nice jumper and some jeans. Heels are a big no-no, so just keep it simple with some nice trainers. He'll appreciate you making the effort. As far as make up goes, lads generally don't even notice you're wearing it, so you can decide whether to wear it or not. If you do wear any, then AVOID THE LIPS! And don't put on too much, you don't want him to think you're a scarecrow!
Best of luck sweetie, I hope I helped! Remember, after your first time, it won't be as bad and you won't be nearly as nervous. Don't worry , there's only a first time once!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2006): I can remember getting my first kiss (of course I wasn't 12 I was 15) and I remember be really worried about what to do too, but I learned that there is nothing to really worry about, because there is no real right or wrong way to kiss. Everyone kisses differently, even 2 people who have kissed lots of others have to learn to kiss their new partner. All you need to do is to relax and let it happen, you will know what to do when the time comes, and you will figure out what to do after you kiss too, it just depends on how it makes you feel. Remember this is his first time kissing you, so it will be different for him too, but I suggest not kissing with tounge until you are compleatly comfortable kissing him with your lips, do not let him or anyone else talk you into something you are not ready to do. Second of all if you havent had your first kiss yet then how could you be thinking about gettting a hickey, especially at your age? Trust me you are only 12, there will be plenty of time for hickeys in the future, so try not to think about asking him to do that.
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