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writes: Me and my boyfriend have been together just over a year. Latley i have began to develop feelings for another guy. my boyfriend and i have always had problems with our relationship, from his ex girlfriend, to the way we talk to each other. I want to take a break with him but im not sure if this is the right thing to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2006): Don't "take a break" - just break up with him. Taking a break is cruel - it strings the guy along so you can have your cake and eat it, too. If he doesn't feel the same way you do, he's probably going to be pretty vulnerable, and might agree to something like this out of hope. But it's not fair to him.You've decided you aren't really willing to give this relationship your full attention, so end it. No ifs, no buts ... just end it.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (24 February 2006):
 I would have to say yes. It seems to me that you don't feel that attached to him. I think that it is maybe telling that you mention negative aspects of the relationship. Before you do break up make sure in your own mind you are settled in what you want to do. Make sure there is/was nothing worth salvaging. If you come to the same conclusions then end it.
Breaking up now is the honest thing to do; if you don't you may well find yourself in a position where you experience a strong temptation to cheat, something that would cause even more problems. Hope that helps, sorry to be brutal.
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