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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years. We have a one year old son together (who was not planned). Our relationship seemed to be going well until I asked about marriage and he replied that he didn't love me and didnt ever see himself marrying me. I'm not sure what my next step should be?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): i agree with lilyflower.. dont waste your time hoping for something change, hoping for impossible thing.. you have to move on now before its too late.. dont worry he will be the one who will feel sorry in the end not you.. good luck.. gladyz
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reader, lilyflower.n  +, writes (10 July 2008):
I agree with Smiles and I don't think he deserves you. Look, this guy obviously wont care if you move on or not. Yes he will have to give child support. Move on while you still can so the separation is easy on the child. Do what you think you should do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): Vow,my heart is bleeding for you; this must be hurting; I can imagine that you are hurt and confused;
BUT
you don't really have much choice;
you either stay with him untill he finds somebody that he falls in love with and then dumps you as it suits him to MOVE ON;
OR
you make it easier on yourself and for your child(who fortunately now, is still small)
You MOVE ON
start your life without him; yes,he will have access to the child and will have to pay child support;
BUT
don't waste anymore time trying to build a loving home and family if that is not in is "Big Picture" for the future;
The trauma of the separation will be easier on the child, whilst it is still so young;
You are young and can find and will find somebody to love you and that will want to marry you;
You need to think of yourself here; your FUTURE;
Breaking up now will hurt; but can you continue to live with the "fear" of when is he leaving me?
Don't do that to yourself; GET OUT, NOW;
I know it will be very difficult, but as said; you really don't have a choice;
DO what is BEST for you and your child LONG TERM;
If need be; consult with a counsellor to help you deal with your hurt and to move forward;
My thoughts are with you;
Please keep us posted and contact if we can be of assistance;
Be strong; think about your future;
Best wishes; and a big HUG and SMILE from me!
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