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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:i'm 42 yrs old and my husband is 52. i'm happily married and do not want to leave or lose my husband, but we hardly ever have sex. well a month ago i went on a little vacation and i met another man and yes, we did it 1 time, and it felt sooo good and so right. he lives 4 states away from me, but we text and talk on the phone. he says we'll get together again one weekend. i want to! i would love to rock his world!!! what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): you were beaten black and blue and then later you find a decent man who takes care of you and you betray him, is this what love is to you? for someone who has been abused, and now know what it is to have a good man take care of her, you have a hell of a way in saying thank you to your hb. so much for bloody respecting him!!!!!!!
alcohol or not, you cheated and you want to do it again.
now you have become the abuser and your hb the victim.
i actually do not feel sorry for you. your marriage means NOTHING to you and you have proved it by having sex with another man. i feel sorry for your good hb. he deserves better!!!!!!!!!
you have learnt NOTHING from your past and that is what makes your cheating even worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've decided not to tell my husband. What happened. It happened for a reason. I felt very insecure about myself. For the past month I've been walking in the clouds because somebody thought I was sexy, and not just a maid or a chef. I got attention, that was enough for me. I love my husband and I've got way too much to lose here at home.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): First thing you should do is tell your husband. He has a right to have a say in this decision.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (13 April 2011):
 Your question was "what should I do?" Given your follow-ups, I wonder if you might tell us what you think the options are. Are you wondering if you should tell your husband? Continue the relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAs for the suffering, I think I've done my share!!! Thank you very much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, my marriage is not OVER! We are very happy with each other! I've been through a couple of abusive relationships, very abusive! The lat guy I was with beat me in the side of the head with a roofing hammer, hit me so hard that I walked around with purple eyes for 4 weeks! Then he put a cigarette out in my neck area where trachiadomies are performed, then turned around & held me by my ankles over a cliff & asked me did I want to go our seperate ways or stay together. The only reason I stayed with him was because I was totally frightened!
I've been with my husband now going on 8 years. He's very good to me doesn't beet on me, he loves & respects me, & I him!! He's just 10 years older, had 2 heart attacks, works hard & is always tired. I've suffered a total nervous breakdown, been diagnosed as being bi-polar, & manic depressive.
I guess you could say I was going through a mid-life crisis. I went with my daughter on a mini vacation to get a break. And, yes, I got drunk!! A very attractive man made a pass at me, which was what I felt I needed at the time! I was very down on myself. He made me feel good, & we made each other feel good. We used protection. I was drunk & out of town! The man lives 4 states away.& we'll probably never meet again. Actually, I look at it as marriage counceling! The only 2 that even KNOW really are me & the other guy!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2011): Your marriage is over and youve gotten closure. End it... oh and shame on you for cheating. Dont tell me youre a typical person and got nice and drunk with the guy and had relations? Thatd be so awesomely original!!!!!!!!!!!!! GOOD JOB!
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reader, Luv2giveadvice  +, writes (12 April 2011):
I'm sorry but your marriage is over.
You do not have the pleasure of saying
I dont want to leave or lose him when
you can easily betray him that way.
You are obviously not totally compatible.
Leave him, and THEN pursue a relationship
with the other man.
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reader, shoccs  +, writes (11 April 2011):
your a cheat! And should leave your husband he deserves a better woman as his wife.what goes around comes around you will suffer the consequences of your betray
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