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*ransforming destiny
writes:About six months ago, I had sex with one of my close friends. It was pretty obvious that we both liked each other but nothing ever came from it. A couple weeks ago, we started talking again and we spent the night with each other a few times but never did anything (kissed or had sex). This past weekend, my friends and I ran into him at a bar and he proceeded to tell my best friend that he still really liked me. I talked to him about it and that night we ended up having sex again. We were both pretty drunk. I haven't heard from him since he left the next morning and it's kind of bothering me. I just don't know what I should do or say the next time I see him because chances are I will run into him again.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 July 2017):
 It sounds to me like he enjoys having sex with you, but if he was interested in more then am sure he would have came after you when he had the chance, if it was me I wouldn't waste my time.
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reader, ellsie96  +, writes (28 June 2017):
 It sounds like you are both interested in each other. However at the moment what you have is a very casual relationship and you both need to decide where you want this to go. You are dancing around the real questions about how much you like one another and the best solution would be to really communicate.He told your best friend that he likes you - he must have known when disclosing that information that it would be passed on to you, if someone told my best friend that they liked me she would definitely let me know!I think he likes you but because so far you have just had a casual sexual relationship, he is not sure how you feel.If you like him too you should let him know, and from there you can decide whether you want things to become more serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2017): It sounds like he is keen otherwise he wouldn't have told your best friend. I think he was hoping she'd tell you and then you'd act on it. It sound like he is shy, but at the same time he could also feel reluctant to pursue anything further because he doesn't know how you feel.
I think it is up to you....what do you want? Next time you meet up with him, just be upfront and ask him if HE wants more than just casual hook ups?
It will be best to find out rather than just keep having random sex and then discovering later on that maybe he isn't keen for a relationship.
Good Luck :)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 June 2017):
 I think YOU have to decide if you want something CASUAL or NOT.
If you want casual then either talk to him or continue the "thing" you two got going.
If you don't want casual, then STOP sleeping with him. I don't think he is interested in more than SEX from you, he might like you but obviously not enough to ask you out or talk to you about seeing if there is something more going on.
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