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30-35,
anonymous
writes:wow. im completely in all honesty in a place with a girl where I don't know what to do and im not sure if anyone else has ever been in a situation like this. I've had this friend who I work with. I've been there for her thru many relationships hers aswell as mine. after her last ex we had sex. we both agreed for that to be a secret. I fell in love with her soon after. then I found out she was dating another guy we work with. they broke up and even tho it hurt I helped her thru it as a friend. now she has found another guy she tells me hes the perfect guy. I have gone thru so much pain and finally I have gotten over her. now she has considered me her best friend. of course I still have lingering feelings. she tells me that the only reason she can't be with me is the fact that im 19 where she is 25. I've helped her thru a lot and I know everything about her I can tell her stuff about herself that she doesn't even notice. I told her that we shouldn't talk to each other because she told her boyfriend that she's never done anything with me and if he found out she could lose that and she is so happy with him that I couldn't be responsible for that. how do I leave her behind?
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (2 June 2009):
 Obviously this woman is a bit cuckoo bananas as I would say. She has used your friendship for her own means and without any thought of how it affects you. She is seeking her own happiness and you have just become her sounding board. Clearly, the sex that you two had was not as mind blowing or heart racing for her as it was for you. It was just a fix.
What I suggest you do is this? Send out some well prepared resumes...don't say anything to her about it. You need to start living your life minus her. Get out of her space, don't communicate and just move on with your life.
Trust me, if she was your girlfriend, you would be twisting your neck all the time trying to see if she was staying faithful. She seems very fickle to me.
Good Luck
Ana
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): She's a cheater, what makes you think she wouldn't chear on you anyway? Leave her be and the age is just an excuse
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