We had sex but I don't see having a serious relationship with him.

A female age 36-40, *storeyfire writes:

This is a long one! i met this guy in a club, at the time i was trying to get over my ex who i really liked but he didnt have the same feelings. So I was going out and kissing a few guys.anyway met guy, guy and i hit it off and we didnt kiss for ages because his friend was there but then we did. then he walked me home and we went for food,kissed, i told him he couldnt come in so he went home and said he wanted to see me again and would text me. Sure enough he found me on facebook ad started texting me.He was very nice and eventually asked me to go for coffee. problem was i couldnt remember if i really fancied him, late night, dark club etc. so i met him in college and he was nervous, had grey streaks in his hair and laughed like a girl at everything. didnt fancy him but i liked his company and before had really enjoyed kissing him. so he walked home from college with me and then said as we stood at my door "OH i wont kiss u this time" as we had been kissing there before. then i said no dont cos i didnt think i liked him but regretted it immediately...he had invited me to a party that night but i was reluctant to go on my own, i didnt know any1 and none of my friends would come. so i texted to say i wouldnt go but then the girls were like give him a chance so i rang him and he was like want to come? so i was like ya. i had a lot to drink before i went and when i got there i was drunk and started hugging and kissing him. he said oh i thought u werent interested to which i said i am...but i was so drunk that i couldnt remember much more. however i know i told him stuff about my ex and he said then oh im only your rebound thing. he took me back to mine cos i was very drunk and i kept kissing him and he was getting really horny and said i want to take your clothes off. to which i said ok but i dont want to do anything as i had not had sex before and didnt want to tell him that. so i stripped naked and he was like even hornier but i said no so he said i dont want you to do it if youl regret it. so i said ok and he went home, he came back later very drunk and we talked and cuddled in bed for a bit and then he went agian after that he stopped texting me and only talked to me on facebook,but still nearly every night eventually a few weeks after we went for drinks , and completely sober this time (i had 2 drinks) i told him i hadnt had sex before but i wanted to and he was fine and we had sex which was better than i thought it would be . so hes been doing exams lately and if he asks me to hang out i always do but we havent kissed/had sex since but if i want him to hang out he says hes too busy with college. the crazy thing is im not even sure if i want anything srious and i told him that but he still said he liked me and wanted to know if i liked him which i took as a sign that he does like me or why would he care? but i want the same attention and care he showing me before regardless of our status. im much better looking than he is and ive been getting with other guys (just kissing, no sex, texting, meeting up) to keep my options open. i would like him to show me the same attention as before and to meet me on my terms sometimes..i dot know if this is possible now. he wont be finished exams till tuesday and wont meet me because of that to discuss this. the thought of a serious relationship fills me with dread as does the thought of being a convience to him. so maybe i should cut my losses and not talk or see him anymore, im fed up with him right now and dont know what to do.please no judgements on me having sex with him, im 22, used protection i dont have any regrets or bad feelings abut it.

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