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writes:Alright so here's the deal. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month. Everything was going Super Great! Then one day, The morning was really good.. we woke up together.. we were cuddling.. he told me he loved me and didn't want to lose me ever.. so when we were leaving i asked him about his porn addiction, because it slightly bothers me.. and he was cool about it.. saying that he would tone it down. and everything was good. Then randomly as i'm on my way home, he texts me saying that " maybe it would be best if we didn't see each other anything, I'm sorry " and i'm like wtf? I asked him about why he wanted to break up.. and he said he just didn't want to do it anymore.. and that It's time to move on.. i don't get how he can go from loving me soo much (he was sorta clingy too!) to just randomly not wanting to see me ever again, and to ignoring my texts.. what should I do? I'm so torn up about this.. he was the one for me :(
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reader, kirra07 +, writes (24 October 2010):
I hate to say this, but some guys have a tendency to do this. They hide the fact that they are unsure about the relationship or any problems they are having with it. Guys seem to dislike fighting and discussions, so just try to avoid the relationship confrontations. Then, when you feel like everything is fine, it turns out it isn't and hasn't been, and they break up with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): This man is an immature, selfish piece of shit babe. You made a mistake by sleeping with him too soon and for some men this may be seen as needy. You may not be that but thats the message he could have received. Also, porn can easily ruin relationships anyway and you dont want a man who has that issue as you could feel very unwanted and undesired possibly and no woman deserves that. He doesnt need to tone it down he needs to get rid of it permanently or he will subject himself to only a certain kind of stimulation and that can lead to a very unhealthy sex life. Dont go chasing after him. I hate women that do that. He's immature and seems very insecure and doesnt have his head on straight therefore stay away. Dont look for a project, look for a man well put together so he can treat u like a real damn woman. My best wishes.
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reader, soon567  +, writes (24 October 2010):
Your porn guy has no morals and to expect more from such a frequent masturbator is just to much to ask in my opinion. I believe sex and making is away to express your feeling towards you significant other. Whom is he expressing himself too.
This isn't meant to be funny: a person that would screw him/herself on a constant basis will eventually screw you over as well. This is your case whereas this young man said everything you need to hear in order for you to give into his desires. He told you that he loved you after he finish acting out of one of his porn scene on you. That was a very cold person-we're talking about someone that beats off all the time so what do you expect.
This guy doent know you besides your a female and has a vagina, yet he loves you so much...how did you fall for that one. He'll be back when he's horny. I can go on but I wont.
It could come a time when you really meet the (one) right person and as a guy we ask questions. No man would accept you if he see or an imagine of street girl comes up. So when your servicing those guys as their wife. You may have to keep your past a secret so you can never feel as you have an honest relationship. Next time you're screwing make sure that your husband. Your not a sperm bank...don't act as one!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 October 2010):
 So after you slept with him is when he dumped you? And in a text, loser!
Now this porn addiction, is this something that you bug him often about? If so that could have fueled the break up. However, if you held out on the sex, hence why he's been getting his kicks from the porn, then you finally sleep with him and he breaks it off. He was clingy, telling he loves you to get what he wants. So it's clearly over via text. By the way any guy who dumps you in a text is a coward, he could have told you at his place before you left. Do yourself a favor and stop texting this guy, "the one" doesn't dump you.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (24 October 2010):
 This is what happens when you sleep with someone too soon!!!!
Wait at least two months to weed out the losers. The right guy will stick around, and you will have had the time to figure out if he is addicted to porn before you sleep with him! He was clingy until he thought you were controlling and pushy about the whole porn thing, right?
You may think *he's the one* but if he's willing to dump you RIGHT AFTER HE SLEEPS WITH YOU about that, well, he's not that great of a bf.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): he don't sound like he's the one for you. he sounds like a jerk off. you don't need him. anyone that breaks up with someone ovet a txt is a loser wimp...move on.
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reader, vidanatha +, writes (24 October 2010):
 Well personally I have dated a man addicted to porn, he thing was to hide the fact that he liked it so much that I actually caught him masturbating to it one day, I felt like I caught my son. Porn to some men I feel is very shameful, or he didn’t wanted to feel controlled, personally I don’t feel like it is your fault, you just need to breath and watch some really bad romance movies.
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