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writes:We had our first kiss and it wasnt magic as expected. I am dating a guy who has been hitting on me for three years now. I am 20 he is 23 i thought i had feelings for him but yesterday when we had our first kiss i didnt enjoy. It was strange, tasted something salty and sloppy. Also i thought of my ex and some guy who has shown interest in me lately after kissing him. Is it odd? Am i being unfair if i told him i didnt enjoy the kiss?(so i lied to him and said i enjoyed it). Since we just started dating i dont know how to deal with this should i call it quits so soon and consider the other guy who has shown great interest in me? Please Help.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 July 2016):
 I also think you should end it, unless you find him otherwise very attractive and can't wait to teach him how to kiss you properly. If you aren't interested in him, I think you shouldn't go on any more dates with him. It sounds to me like you have already decided he isn't the one for you.
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reader, singinbluebird  +, writes (30 June 2016):
 A kiss is all you need to know if there is an attraction. I say just end it and move on as quickly as possible. So many people settle into relationships that are compatible and comfortable BUT the kissing or physical part may be missing----often prompting people to regret settling or they usually end up wanting to cheat. We always want passion. Im not telling you to focus on the guys that make you hot or treat you bad but you have great sex with. But you do need to enjoy kissing a guy, need to be attracted to him, want to make love to him ---again and again. These are all things we need in a romantic partner to feel happy---to feel satisfied (men enjoy women who desire them too, just like you enjoy it if you desire the guy as well)Maybe give him a few more chances---i always give a guy a few dates/kisses to see how it goes and if I feel pretty ehhh or I dont even remember him next day--its a good sign I should end it nicely and move on. Good luck!
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (30 June 2016):
I don't know. I think I kind of disagree with the previous posters though. I have never, ever had a relationship work out if there was no chemistry on that first kiss. I've stayed in relationships far too long when really that should have been a red flag that I actually wasn't compatible with them.
I suppose it's theoretically possible to build a relationship with a person with whom you have no spark, but I'm not sure why you'd want to. Personally I'd call it a day. No need to tell him you didn't enjoy the kiss, that seems a little hurtful. A simple "This isn't working out" will do.
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reader, Deeksha  +, writes (30 June 2016):
 Look! Whatever it is, it isn't fair to quit the relationship without even trying. It would just take a minute or two to break up with him but if after sometime you find yourself missing him and then even if you want him back you are not going to have him because he would have lost faith in you by then. You get this? So what if your first kiss wasn't magical, it wasn't your last kiss though. Do you think a guy who can kiss effectively can love too the way this guy has been waiting for you all these 3 years? Give it some time. You said you felt something for him sometime back. Try to recall those feelings and relive those moments when the next time you have a kiss, and trust me this one is going to be heavenly!
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (30 June 2016):
 Was it a peck or a make out? Reason being, people kiss differently and you have to communicate to explain what you do and don't like - otherwise he'll always kiss you like that because you lied and said you enjoyed it.Then again, you've hardly fallen for him if you're already thinking about moving on. I just don't think you like him enough, so I think you should let go.
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