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writes: I'm a 16 year old girl, and I work every day. Next door to the shop there is a groceries, and a boy who is 18. He asked me out for a coffee, and we hit it off. He goes to the college I am starting in September. He kept texting me things, one example was on my birthday at midnite and said he will be thinking about me. He also asked me to model for his photography work.We went for a date in the park, and it seemed to go ok, but after he texted me that he saw me as a friend.I was really upset about it. Now he never talks or looks at me at work, if im walking towards him, he will look another way. But I have caught him staring at me a few times, I smile and he looks away. Why is he doing this? I hurts because I'm still trying to get over him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): Did you ask him if have a girlfriend. Women makes mistake all the time, when they see a guy that they like, they don`t ask to see if the guy already commited to a girl.do some research don`t be like the other foolish girls of not asking. when ask you will know where you stand from the begining in the relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2006): 2 words for you sweetheart men are w*****s and i should no im one of them but there are a few good ones
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reader, altairm +, writes (1 August 2005):
I can understand why it hurts. One minute things were going very well and the two of you were hitting it off. Then, the next minute he is telling you he only saw you as a friend and now pretending he doesn't even know you. In other words, why is he being hot and then cold?
It's very likely that he was already displaying (subtle) red flag signs, especially up until the last date. You could have missed them because you were really digging him. The way he handled the situation was very immature. However, he is being very clear on his feelings for you and what he wants at this time.
There are several reasons why he is reacting this way. Some of the reasons could be:
1. If you displayed being very upset, he probably didn't anticipate the type of reaction you gave. This could be one reason why he is distancing himself from you.
2. Another reason could be that he knows how you feel, but he is not able to give you what you want at this time.
3. There is is also a huge possibility that he feels very awkward about how things ended and he is choosing to be unavailable to you.
At the same time, you are not too far from him and you two do have a brief past. There are going to be times where he's wondering what you are up to. That's a possible reason why he gives you the occassional stares. How you are handling the situation is great! I would continue to give him the space he needs.
In the mean time, I would move on. I bet once you do that, you will feel a lot better. If he was to come back, he will do it when he is ready. However you might not even want him back! :) It is definately his loss and you deserve someone who can give you what you are looking for. Good luck!
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