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writes:This is really difficult to write about because I'm hurting so much but I need advice. About 2 months ago I became romantically involved with my best friend. We basically grew closer and closer and then he moved in to a flat literally 5 mins walk from my flat, and we began flirting with each other more and more. We admitted we both had feelings for each other. Then one night I went around and we ended up having sex together. I knew when I went around there, that that was what was going to happen, so did he. It the most amazing sex and we made love in a way I have never felt before. We spent the night curled up in each others arms and in the morning we made love again, It was incredible. However after that, things got a bit weird. We had a massive argument and we stopped speaking. But for the sake of our friendship we sat down the other week and patched things up. Everything is ok now but he wants us to be "just friends" even though he says the sex was amazing and that it was one of the best nights of his life. I am putting on a brave face but in all honesty I think I am in love with him and I don't know what to do. My mind keeps wandering back to the happy moments we shared together and I just cant get over it. Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2008): Hi - im the original poster. The argument was about us wanting different things i reckon. He thought I wanted a serious relationship and I didnt, but I guess I kinda now do.
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reader, chandra Mcmillan +, writes (5 October 2008):
 Hi, Love and Sex are weired things to mix up. I think it is tough on both you and him. He is most likely trying to stay friends with you because you mean to much to him to just constantly have sex with. He see's you as a trusted, respectable friend.
Maybe he is afraid that the argument you had was because you slept together and he doesn't want you to fall out. Maybe it's because he can tell you are falling for him and he doesn't have the same thoughts about you.
If you beleive in him and trust him. Talk to him explain how you feel and discuss it. Tell him you dont want to loose your friendship but you need to know where he truly stands and why.
You sound like you have a real friend there and it is actually nice to see that there are still men out there that want to have friendships with girls they have had sex with. GOOD LUCK
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reader, pats girl  +, writes (5 October 2008):
first of all ok this is what you do. you have to really think about this and you have to be sure that its what you want first and if it is what you really want you need to go to him and tell him exactly how you feel about him. and if he loves you everything will work its self out ok just trust me on this one you guys have a talk about it and see what you can do to fix your problem that you have
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