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writes:in confused! so there is this guy and we had been good friends for a year, and for that whole year he tried his hardest not to like me. then one night everything happened and we ended up starting in what we call an overly friendly friendship. and that was fine with me. but then he started bouncing back and fourth with the concept of dating. everything was still the same. he would pick me up when i was walking in the rain, we managed time very well, he was always doctoring me up with all of my injuries, when i was sick he took me to his place and soup, sleep the whole bit. his parents adored me, and according to him i was the 2nd girl he ever trusted. sure we had our disagreements but they always ended in laughter, it was a good relationship. then i goofed. and freaked out about commitment, and the truth that i actually liked him more then i really admitted to him. yea i know really dumb on my part. but we ended the overly friendly friendship but remained good friends. then i decided i had to tell the truth and before i went away for a while i left him a note explaining everything. while i was away we still spoke. then i came back and he brought up the note and i explained it and everything was back to "friends with ben." about 2 days later he freaked out and i was ok with that. im good with giving ppl their space. then he a few months later he stopped talking to me and when i called him out on it (nicely) he said he wanted nothing to do with me ever. i asked why and apparently his friends who were my friends as well was telling him i was saying things i had not said, and i personally think it was because she likes him and he already told her she had no chance... (but thats my opinion i could be wrong) and acording to "society" we were dating, but not to us. so there fore i became a liar etc... and he then started making up bs excuses, and claimed that he is "heading down a path that no one should follow him down" and that i would be "better off with out him" and that " i dont deserve him" and i know that his self confidence isnt that great but still... im so confused. i cant figure out what went through his head or what is still going through his head! i mean he still has our pictures, and that letter i wrote him. is there a possibility we can still get back together?ill wait.. dont get me wrong, but i can't wait forever....
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reader, helpjayne  +, writes (23 November 2008):
 write him one more letter. you were like the only other girl in his life he has ever trusted and your maytes go and spread rummours he probably got too close to you and now he's hurt and he didn't wana be. i think you should deffinatly write him a letter explaining everything. but i also think why don't you get with him? i mean it's not really my place to say but i think you must really like this guy to write something that long! lol and he must like you if he's so hurt. from the way you described it, it sounds like he wants to be mad at you because he still likes you he's just scared that them rummours are true and scared he'l get hurt. reassure him that you'l always be his friend and you feel so strongly about him, and you'l always be there for him. and you wouldn't say anything about him. but also tell him that there is only so long you can wait so it's now or never. xgoodluck
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