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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Over the weekend my boyfriend and I bumped heads pretty hard and things are not so good. My boyfriend is cleary disturbed and bothered by what happened. We have been together for almost 2 years and have plenty of great times together. I feel he wants to be with me more than he doesnt want to be with me. I saw him last night and we didn't say much we mostly talked about what happened and how much he is bothered by it. I told him how i felt about him. He let me lay on him and hug him. When I kissed him, he kissed me back but it was a lifeless kiss but its the effort that counts to me. To me it seems like he's trying. He hugged me back but it wasn't tight like he usually does even though during some hugs he held me tighter than others. He even gave a few lifeless (baby) kisses on the cheek and neck. Today he had texted me to let me know he made it to work and wished me a good day. I had told him yesterday morning to text me when he got to work, mostly to see if he'd do it since i knew he was upset, and he did text me and he texted me again today informing me again that he made it to work. I feel that if he didn't want this to work that he wouldn't even bother to text me this morning, or make any kind of effort yesterday by kissing me back and what not..I would like peoples honest opinions and no smart answers please. This is serious and important to me. Thank you so much!!!Sry for the length.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 June 2010):
All you need to do is wait for him to come to you. He needs to work out how he feels and sulk for a few days before he can get back to normal. Men take time to get over being hurt or angry. Have patience.
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reader, Muscle and Sinew +, writes (8 June 2010):
 I am in your shoes. Men are the hardest to figure out. From what they think to how they show their emotions. Maybe the best thing is to give each other some space just so he knows what it would feel like if you weren't there. If he is a prideful boy, those are very hard to break and more likely it will be harder for you all to have a growing relationship. Communication is the key. And I know ppl always say it but it really is. Say what you need to say, if it's burning up inside you let it out. Don't hesitate. That's what I used to do. But I would always say I'm sorry for doing absolutly nothing. But it gets old. I hope this made sense and helped you!!
M&S
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