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writes:So i went on one date with a guy i met about a month ago. weve been really busy so we havent gone out as many times as we'd wanted to (he goes skiing a lot on the weekends) but weve talked every day. the other night we were texting and i have a tendency to be a little daring over text, anyway the conversation ended up with him asking me if i was interested in having sex with him. i told him i wasnt that kind of girl and that i planned on waiting a while because i didnt want to do anything id regret. after that he apologized a lot and said he just misinterpreted what i was saying earlier, which was kind of understandable. but i was just wondering if guys usually try and ask about sex early in a relationship? (ive never had a real boyfriend before, only little flings that dont really count) also, he seemed really embarrassed about asking but do you think this is a bad sign? or should i wait and see if he tries to push it again? i just really dont want to be in an uncomfortable situation. by the way he is a year older than me if that matters at all.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (25 February 2011):
 Yes, all guys will want sex from you. They think about it at least one hundred times a day at your age. That is why you need to be careful about who you give it to. And wait until your older to do it.
Just so you don't misunderstand, I am not a prude or someone that thinks you should only have sex after marriage. But there are men out there who will take advantage of you if you let them. Adn once you have had sex witha guy it is hard to go back to just holding hands.
The really sad part about that is once you do give in to sex all the romance tends to go out of the relationship and it becomes just about sex.
Which to be perfectly frank usually isn't very good anyways at your age, most of your partners will be young and inexperienced themself and it takes a long time for a guy to learn how to truly please a woman in bed.
It also opens you wide up for even bigger heartache.
Liked being dumped by a guy right after you "gave in" to him and then having it spread around by the same guy that claimed he loved you.... STD's and pregnancy are also serious risks that you need to educate yourself about and take the neccessary steps to prevent them.
So do yourself a big favor and wait to do it until you're ready for it and its really right for you. You'll never be sorry that you did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've talked to him since then but I think its very frustrating that it seems all guys want is sex. He seems very sweet but after him mentioning it I can't help but think that's all he wants from me. Is it like this with all guys?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): well he apologised for his mistake which I believe is a decent thing to do. It seems he just made an honest mistake. In my opinion and experience most guys always think about sex and at least he backed off when you said no which means he respects you. As for the embarrassment he showed, perhaps he realised he got a little carried away with the situation and now he thinks he may have ruined it between you?
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