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writes: My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for the past 5 years. We lived apart for the first 1, together for 3 and have been long distance for the last one. We are (or were) supposed to move to Boston in a weeks, but last week we got on the topic of :have you ever thought about anyone else?" Not a smart thing, but it was good to clear up the air. She mentioned to me that she had felt feelings for one person the last Saturday which was only 4 days after she had seen me. I was a little upset and mentioned that fact. The next day, she called me after work and told me she wanted to take a break inorder to know that I am the right one and that she was having doubts because of the feelings she had over the weekend. I sent her a text and she replied back that it was hard not to talk to me too, but it was something she needed to do and to please understand. I haven't heard from her since, but everyone I know has told me to give her space. Is this over? We have so much time together that I want to wait for her, but I also question if this is just something she needs to get out of her system before we move together. Help :(
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (12 June 2006):
 possibly may be she isn't looking for anyhting too heavy
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (12 June 2006):
 I think you should give her the space that she asks for. If you love a person you do whats best to make them happy even if being happy isn't with you. Don't be selfish. Are you thinking about the best thing for her or are you thinking about the pain that you feel being without her. She will come back. I don't know in what fashion nor do I know if it is over only you and her can determine that. Give her the space she wants. You will come out looking a whole lot better than any guy she will meet or think about because you had enough love to let her go. I lived it so I know. Good Luck.
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reader, sibaan +, writes (12 June 2006):
 give her space, she is just feeling a little confused. im sure everything will work out for the best.
never stop fighting for anyone or thing you truly love in life other wise you live with regret everyday for the rest of your life.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (12 June 2006):
 You definitely need to give her some space. Once she's had time to think, you'll know the decision she makes is the right one for her and you'll know she really means it. If you don't leave her alone and you end up pressuring her into a decision she doesn't want to make then you'll always wonder if she made the decision for her or because you made her do it.
It sounds like she is having doubts about the relationship, but we all think about other people from time to time. We don't really know how she feels about this other guy, maybe it's just a passing thing. We all do that, don't we? I can't tell you whether it's over or not but my advice to you is give her some space and let her come back to you if this is the right thing to do. Good luck
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