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writes: Feel empty and alone - hope someone can help! I have been friends with this guy for nearly two years now but in the last 12 months grew closer and closer as I have been through quite a rough 12 months and he has been there for me. Im 32 and he is 24. He knows how I feel and I know deep down he cares deeply for me. Anyway we we up late into the morning texting and he was asking me odd questions which made me ask why and he said it was because he was thinking where we would go if we got together and the more he chatted the more I felt as though we were having a "break through". But then he said he could never be in a relationship with me and he was sorry for confusing me. After that he told me something that deeply hurt me but I was prepared to let it go and told him it didnt change the fact i still wanted to be with him. This continued on but with my confused head and my emotions I pushed things too far and now I think I have lost him for good. He said firstly that he felt like i was bullying him into being with me and it wasnt nice - it was never my intention for him to feel like that and I dont like myself for making him feel like that. He also said he couldnt see how we could be friends anymore. I feel such an idiot - i realise now that I should never have contemplated a relationship with the risk of losing our friendship - now I have pushed him away and i feel so alone and that my world is crashing around me. I sent him a text asking him to please not throw away our strong friendship, that i was wrong to say all that i said and I know it and that i wished i could take it back and that i really want us to talk. He works lates so wont be awake yet but im so scared of the rejection. Has anyone else been in a situation like this? Any advice of what I should do would be of help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2006): Firstly there is quite an age gap, he is 24 and you are 32 maybe he feels too young for a committed relationship.I was in a relationship like this too and eventually we decided sadly that we both wanted different things. Leave him be for the moment and see if he contacts you. I doubt that things will change, but it's better for you that it has ended now rather than him leading you up the garden path.Its really hard I know, but at least you will have the chance of finding someone who wants the same from a relationship as you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2006): my advice to you would be to just let him be for a little while to let him get his head around it all and then wait to see if he talks to you first and if he does not then give him a call and try to explain everthing to him and if he does not listen then your friendship was not meant to be. good luck and stay strong
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