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writes:Hello all,I have been using a singles website, and met someone in December on there, started by only chatting on im, then she asked for my mobile number so we then text each other, then home numbers.We met up for a couple of days, I stayed in a hotel, we got on so well.Got back and carried on doing the same, then after a while she invited me to stay at her house for a few days, which I did we had such a great time went out places together hand in hand, kissing, spent every night in her bed, then when it was time for me to go home she looked really upset like I was.I returned home on a Thursday she text me to make sure I got home safe, on the Saturday morning received a text from her saying she thought she was ready for a serious relationship but she wasn't and she was sorry xxx.I didn't know what to do I was so cut up so I just text her back saying I understood, She hasn't contacted me in 3 weeks and I haven't contacted her in any way in 3 weeks, the trouble is I just miss her so much and I don't know what to do, do I just let it lie and move on or do I contact her saying we will take it slow.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 You are fortunate that this woman was honest with you. Many times people send mixed signals and leave the other one hanging not knowing. This leaves the person to do desperate things and they end up looking like a fool. You gave this woman space and understanding. I know she respects you more for that and in her mind, you are a big person. Good for you.
The best thing you can do right now is to let it go. I know this is hard because you said the two of you cliqued. When someone isn't ready, they just aren't ready. The likelihood of her coming back to you when she is ready is pretty slim. On a good note, you had a wonderful (albeit short) connection with someone you cared about and now you have this memory. You should try to cherish it for what it is and look back on it with joy.
It will also be a good baseline in what to look for in your next relationship. Don't settle for anything less than fireworks.
Take Care
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (8 April 2008):
 There is not much you can do sadly. She text you letting you know she didn't want a serious relationship and did not put forth any interest in just taking it slow or being friends for a while etc. Texting her would most likely put her off more, you handled it excellently by saying you understand and not contacting her for further explanations. She doesn't seem to have any interest in a relationship since she has not contacted you in 3 weeks. It would be smart to just let her go. Just remember she is missing out on something special and that it is her loss. Good luck with everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): Move on. No reason to drag it out. Take her for her word, otherwise, you might end up playing a key role in a soap opera relationship. She isn't ready, and what she texed might be an indication she is not emotionaly ready. Let it go.
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