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*fruit*tree*
writes: There's this guy at my school, that i really like,and i have known him since September, and we're really good friends.I was convinced that he liked me too, until his friends teased him about fancying me, and he said that he fancied someone else (carefully avoiding my eyes, which he never does), yet he continued to shower me with compliments. He doesn't spend any time with the girl that he says he likes at all, but hangs around with me and my friends alot. He makes a lot of eye contact with me, and i can sometimes feel him looking at me during lessons, he realises when i am upset, and asks me why and tries to comfort me, as well as playfully teasing me and remembers alot of what i say in conversations, he tells me loads of personal things that i don't think he has told many other people. We email each other alot,and we get on really well as friends, but i want it to be more, does he? and if he does, why did he say that he liked someone else?
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reader, *fruit*tree* +, writes (7 January 2007):
*fruit*tree* is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Zim! I will try to talk to him soon, probably Tuesday, as it's his birthday tomorrow (Monday)!
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reader, Zim  +, writes (7 January 2007):
 I would say there is a very definite possibility that he likes you. When I was at school, at least when I was a teenager, whenever friends teased me about whether I liked a girl, especially if she was in the same room, I would deny it. Just because I was nervous and shy. It is very difficult for a guy like that to admit feelings in such a public place. Believe me, I am that kind of guy still!:-) There are two options I can think of for you:
Ask him out directly: This requires confidence on your part. Considering he seems to be shy when asked about relationships I would ask him if he likes you in a private setting, such as when you two are alone walking to and from school. Basically any situation where you two aren't overheard. That will make it a lot easier for him.
Ask a friend: Get a trusted friend that he trusts too to check if he likes you. Subtly however.
Now two results. Either he likes you (In which case have fun!:-)), or he doesn't have feelings for you in that way.
If he says no, it is very important to reassure him that you just needed to find out and now that you know you are fine with it. That you still want to be friends and that this won't change anything. Still act like you normally would with him and perhaps change the subject quickly to something you both enjoy. This is just a backup in case he says no.
However, considering the information you've given me, I think that he likes you a lot. He's empthathic to your needs and wants and maintains eye contact with you. These are good signs.
Good luck! Let us know how it went! ZIM
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