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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I started seeing a guy I've known for a few years. We get on really well and everything, but when it comes to sex we have some difficulties.Everytime we get intimate, he comes really quickly either early when I'm giving him some head or within the first minute of sex (even at a nice steady pace).He usually gets a second wind but goes hard/soft repeatedly really easily. also I can't finish him off the second time round and he has to do it himself. Is this normal for a guy in round two, if not what can I do to help? He seems to enjoy it and gets near to the brink but not quite there. Also Is there anything I can do to help with him coming too soon? He's 23 and I'm sure that it isn't just down to inexperience.Thanks for your help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, chachacha +, writes (19 April 2007):
I would suggest you stop "giving him head" because I believe men find that very exciting, and it will only speed him up.
I suggest that you delay intercourse - have him make love to you with his hands and his mouth, so that you have an excellent time and his stimulation is thus not penis-focused. Then, only when you have been quite satisifed, allow intercourse.
In this way, he'll learn how to enjoy sexual activity and being turned on, whilst learning how not to expect to come for some time.
Then, in due course, when he has learned this, intercourse can start a little sooner (if you want it to!) and hopefully he'll have learned that there is a delay.
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