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writes:dear cupid:i have been dating my boyfriend for 1 month, he was married for 25 years and divorced for 1 year.boyfriend is still in contact with his ex even though she treated him horrible. she was diagnosis with an eye problem that left her blind. she wanted the divorce, took his savings and still calls him for money and verbral abuses him on phone, and he lets her. she e-mails him and hes just there hearing her.according to him because "they were together for 25yrs". bf and i get along great. i just don't know if i should stick around and wait for his guard to come down to show him that there is some one who can offer love and trust to him. i don't want to get hurt again but life is about taking chances. what shall i do. NEED HELP
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reader, firefly13 +, writes (3 May 2011):
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 You don't have to do anything.
If he is taking abuse from the ex, that has little if nothing to do with you. If he gives her money, again, zero to do with you.
She's gone blind, which is more terrifying than being blind from birth. He is helping her, I would too.
You've been with him for one month. That is a very short time.
You say you can offer love and trust, but you don't trust him around her or her around him? If it's love you want than you will have to love the fact that he is helping his ex. I do think that's admirable.
Concentrate on your RS with him, not his ex. Whatever challenges he has with his ex our not yours leave those out of the conversation and out or the arena.
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