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writes: My marriage is in trouble and I refuse to give up but it is time to take a break? For the last two weeks my husband and I of 4 years have been fighting non stop and if we're not fighting I am getting the cold shoulder. It all started because I told him I felt like I was being neglected. He got very upset with me and told me he feels he never does enough for me. Which it's true, he is a good man and I love everything he does for me, just would like more love and attention, just seems to me everyone else is more important. This past Sunday I had the wrose acute anxiety panic attack that they said my heart stopped for 1 min and 45 sec. Tell told everyone he wants me to go back to my mom's and is done with me, yet he shows and acts like he still cares. Right now I have decied to live with our son at his brother and sister in-law's house. Everyone says I am stupid for still being here and wanting to be with him. What should I do and how do you block the pain of that strong of love out? I really feel I can't move on with my life right now without him. Am I crazy or what?
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reader, missdee +, writes (8 September 2005):
Marriage is not easy. It is a constant compromise. Ofcourse there will be times he will make you mad and vice versa but is it really worth fighting over. Pick your batttles, sometimes its just easier to let it go.
You said it started because you told him you felt like he was neglecting you. When in reality he wasn't you just wanted a little more attention. You made him feel like he was doing nothing for you, and he was. You need to tell him that and how much you appreciate everything he has ever done for you. To solve the needing more attention problem, by putting back a day, a evening sometime during the week where you can shower him with attention and in return he will shower you with it too.
Wish you the best..
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reader, Ann +, writes (11 August 2005):
You are not crazy. You made the right chioce. It will take time and it wont go away but it will soon. It will give him time to think and grow up and hopefuly it will help him realize he has some thing great in his life. I know I am in that same spot with my husband so I know what you are feeling. If he does not realize what he has then you are better off with out him. I will be hard for a long time but you will get over him and go on with your life.
Good Luck on what ever you do. I hope he grows up and treats you better.
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