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writes: Don't know what the status between me and my ex is! Are we just friends? We know each other inside out because of our long-term relationship, we do flirt a lot and occasionally end up doing sexual stuff, but we don't take anything we do very seriously. We're not very close in that we talk or see eachother often, but we will sometimes find ourselves talking to eachother on the phone for hours about nothing. Is this a normal friendship between ex lovers?
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (28 November 2006):
 I agree with everyone else here. I was close with my ex like that. We would hang out, hold hands, kiss and even have sex if the mood struck but when she started seeing another guy things got messy because we both still had feelings for each other. She didn't want to let go of me and she also wanted to see what was up with the new guy. I in turn became jealous and very angry about this new relationship. We parted ways in a very messy fashion. Eventually, her and this new guy fizzled out and I didn't want any parts of her after that. I felt as if she played with my emotions and we both ended up hurt in the long run. The point I'm trying to make is one of you will have stronger feelings for the other and one will keep it certain that they are single and one will be hurt or both in the long run. Then you have to deal with a new person who won't like or understand the dynamics of your relationship because no one wants to have a person closer to their mate than they are and problems will arise in the new relationship. I say wing yourself from this relationship and live independently. You have a bond that won't be broken only stalled and when the time is right you can reconnect and what was will be much stronger because you have experienced the other side and you know what you have in your midst is special. Love is something that can't be suppressed only hendered by human nature, carnal instinct and human desire. Those things will fade in time but real love will stay eternal. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006): This is nice to be so close to an ex. I've never been close to mine once the dust has settled. Make the most of the moment but be prepared to be pushed into the background or even totally out of the picture if he meets anyone else.
Enjoy the moment.
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006): I don't think one can define a "normal" relationship between exes. It runs the whole gamut from being warm, close friends to absolutely hating one another. In your case I have to ask..why the heck did you two break up?? You both sound very good for each other...there's a closeness, a bond. Yes, it's safe to say..you are friends..uhm-very good friends! The only problem I can see for you two is if one of you brings a new bf or gf into the scenario. Then that is where you could hit a snag. Sometimes, being friends with an ex, can really, really interfere with all subsequent relationships you both undertake. New bf's and gf's don't always like close friendships between exes. njoy your friendship with this guy, hun..who knows-you may go to the next level. Good luck and be happy.
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