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female
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anonymous
writes:I spent the night at my boyfriends house and we had a great time. This morinig he calls me to wake me up instead of walking up the stairs to wake me. I got pissed at this because he could have just walked up and said hey I'm leaving in 15 min. I got pissed at and got dressed and told him I'm leaving, he said good fucking leave I replied back with I'm not coming back either. Please help me out it seems all we do is fight and agure over dumb things. I want to know if I'm in the wrong for getting pissed bc he called me instead of walking up the stairs and telling me. I'm so lost about this whole relationship we have. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2011): I think your arguing over superficial things is masking deeper problems within your relationship.
What riled you so much about the way he woke you up? I agree that calling you instead of coming upstairs to tell you in person was a rather unnecessary thing to do, but perhaps he thought it would be funny or original or something. I'm not saying you were *wrong* to get annoyed, but you have to ask yourself *why*. Did you feel that he cared less about you somehow because he didn't take the time to say goodbye properly, perhaps?
You say you enjoyed yourselves the night before, so evidently you do still have some good times together; these are the positives you want to build upon. It's vital to be honest with one another at all times - if there are more serious issues between you at base, they need to be brought into the open or they'll never be resolved. Try not to rise to petty irritations, because they're nothing but distractions. If with better communication and goodwill on both sides there's no improvement in due course though, perhaps you should consider that you may not be the right people for each other. Nonetheless, give it your best shot, because then whatever happens, at least you can say you tried. Good luck and take care x
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