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writes:Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for over three years now, I thought everything was going great, we looked at moving into together, we even bought items for the house, we also talked about starting a family and gettingmarried, we even went looking for a ring.About 3 weeks ago she has started going out with a friend to nightclubs mayb once every 3 weeks, the other day she said she wants to go on a break and dhe doesent know if she still wants to be with me, i love her soo much, I asked her if she still lovges me and she said i still have feelings for you. i havent seen her in a week so i am giving her the space she asked for, what can i do?Please Help me.ThanksJ
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (26 October 2008):
it sounds like you were one of those couples who were very much in love because they spent every second together and were in a routine and never had any thing to compare it to.
Now she has gone out, she's realised that actually there is a wider world out there and she is questioning her feelings.
It could be that she's realised she has lost her own personality because she spent so much time with you, that you have both turned into one person. Now she's rediscovered herself and she has go freaked out that she had changed so much and is scared that marrage will turn her into a boring housewife who never goes out.
All this does not mean it is the end though.
What you need to do it to go out and re-discover yourself. Re-discover the man who she fell in love with. Why don't you go out to night clubs together? Go out and have a great time.
Being a couple doesn't mean staying in and being boring. Show her that she can be with you and go out with her friends, and she can go out with you and you can have an exciting life together.
Good Luck!! xx
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