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writes:Hey guys. I need help.I'm in love with my boyfriend.Yeah I know you're most likly thinking"You can't know what love is you're only 13" I REALLY am and he is in love with. I already told him I don't want to have sex till I'm older and ready and we are both fine.For some reason everytime we make out when he's on me I feel like I want to have sex with him and he feels the same way but we know that we can't.What can we do to not think about having sex with eacother so we won't do it one day and regret it?? Reply to this Question
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reader, forbidenbutsmitten  +, writes (25 August 2007):
 I know it feels right because i'm 12 and im going through what you're going through exept i haven't told the boy, but it is best if u wait rather than have him in jail. Whatever you do don't let him pressure you because if he does it means he cannot wait and your true love would wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys.I'll make sure to tell my boyfriend what you guys said too. Also,I don't mean to be mean but the person that said I'll have a baby by the time I'm 14 what the heck is your probelm.If your'e here to put me down cus I'm trying to ask people for help so I won't end up like that then get off of here. You're just disrespecting me and my boyfriend. We're smarter than you think. I came here cus we BOTH said that we need to stop thinking about that stuff.So shot me for trying to have a good life without any really bad regrets!!!!!
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reader, 15 and worried  +, writes (24 August 2007):
please don't do it hun i remember my sexual urges took me over when I was 12! and i had oral sex for my first time and i was seeing the guy for 2 years and I didnt want to have sexual intercourse but I even regret havin oral because it got around the town and no one wanted to go out with me they just wanted to have me as a play toy but that was a mistake and I don't want to see someone as smart as you regret something that you're not 100% sure about
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): I think you were headed in the right direction when you said you wanted to wait until you were old enough. What good would come of having sex with your boyfriend? Nothing, thats what except a reputation of being "easy". Plus think of how much trouble your boyfriend would get in if the law found out he had, had sex with you. He could go to jail for 10 years for Rape. Its not worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): What's wrong with you? your 13! think about what sort of reputation you'll have at school if you do sleep with him. I don't understand why your feeling like this, why can't you two have an innocent relationship? where kids just kiss and not lay on top of each other.
Your properly end up pregnant by the time your 14!
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (24 August 2007):
 I know. Some girls do feel strong urges at your age, and having a boyfriend that you love and trust makes it seem like "Why Not?". But - You did say earlier in your letter that your original intention was to wait until you got older. Did you know that one test for determining intelligence is called "delayed gratification"? It can show the development, maturity and intelligence of young children. If you already thought that you wanted to wait, what has changed your mind so much? You should make a list of the pros and cons, and you will see that there really isn't a good reason for going against your own better judgment. Did you know that the chances of developing cervical cancer increase with early sexual activity? If you really want to delay yourself, you need to put the brakes on and stop putting yourself in situations where you both could go farther. This isn't a game, it could change the course of your life and YOU are the one in charge. You sound like a very smart young woman, take control of your life.
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