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writes:I am a 33 y.o. female dating a 28 y.o. male, our relationship for the most part is great, but there are times when we get into an arguement for seemingly no good reason and problems that he has with me would just come up, whereas when we are fine, he has no problems with me. We talk on a regular basis on the phone (probably up 2 about 6 times a day) and we normally end the convo by telling each other "love you" but when we get into an argument i say say it but he just says ok. That hurts me so much, because even though we just argued I still love him, but when he doesn't say it, it makes me feel like he doesn't love me anymore. We don't see each other as often as we did in the beginning, because we are both busy, do you think that is the reason why we have these silly agruements? And do you think he really loves me? Reply to this Question
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (28 October 2007):
 hi.
When ever i have had an argument with some one i love,(which was very rarely) as long as uncalled for things have not been said, i have never stopped loving that person, most times a argument can clear the air and bring people closer together.
I think that you both need to meet up and find out what his problem is, you can not just stop loving some one because you have had words,his actions are not fair to you and you at least need to now what the problem is,the only way to resolve your problem discuss it calmly together and work you difference out.
good luck.
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reader, lala1806  +, writes (27 October 2007):
 i think that if he indeed really did love you it wouldnt matter whether he is upset with u or not he should always feel that he loves u and should always be able to say it....if you love someone you are unable to actually pick the time to turn it off or on.....it sounds to be that he might be insecure about something.....and i think that maybe when you guys are argueing and he brings up his problems with u he brings them up randomly during arguements cuz your already a little mad and he doesnt have to feel bad putting you in an upsetting mood when you were feeling fine before.....guys dont act or say it but they really do feel uncomfortable when they know they are the main cause for you being upset.....they dont like drama so when there is none they will do as much as possible to make sure drama is not brought into the relationship....which causes the most uncomfortbale times to bring things up hence during your arguements...what guys seem to forget is that women have a much more vulnerability to emotions and that just stacking the anger and problems when they are not necessary leads to more stress for you....but a guy needs to kno he can be comfortable with bringing up things with u without worrying if its going to lead to a big cry fest....i think that in your case you need to let him kno that your mature enough to take it and listen to him and if he makes a point in his arguement you need to let him kno that you will work on it instead of being upset about what he just said which is probably his fear in the first place....if that doesnt work then i would say move on cuz if he cant take that than he was just too immature to work hard enough for the relationship in the first place....i hope this helps
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