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writes:I have been with my girlfriend of 6 months. She's 25 and I'm 7 years older than her. We don't seem to have something in common. Sometimes we argue over things that we have different opinion and she always insists her thinking is right. I love her. How can I maintain this relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, justadvise  +, writes (6 September 2009):
There are two ways to look at this situation. The first thing is how did you guys hook up and last this long? something gotta be there.
Second way to look at this is actually hard to do because it's about your personality. Are both of you able and willing to "adapt in order to survive"? what i mean by that is understanding the other person needs and willing to swing her way to please her. If you are able to consider and willing to hold back your point of view and look at her perspective then it could work. To changed for the other person.
hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): Its tought when you truly love someone, but you cant really relate to them. The thing is not to constanty worry about all the things you dont have in common and just try to find things you two can share together. Anytime you get into a discussion or argument, just try your best to debate rather than yell at each other. Try to explain your side and listen to hears. Make sure the two of you understand where each other are coming from and can at least respect each others opinions if you dont agree. You two must have a few things in common and things you like to do that has lasted for this long. Keep trying to find new things you can share together and agree on.
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reader, wherestheinstructions?  +, writes (5 September 2009):
So what's kept you together for six months - just the lust and great sex ? What was the initial attraction, not just for you, but for her ?
If you think you don't have anything in common, why would you attempt to maintain the relationship - love can be wonderful, but alone it will not sustain you for a long-term relationship.
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