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*otttmess
writes:Okay so here is the deal, I am 17 and it all started about last march. I went on a trip with a club in my school for a week to another state. A guy in the club and I clicked right away and we hung out the whole trip. when we came home we proceeded to keep hanging out. We almost had sex, but then we mutually decided that we really liked eachother so we decided to wait. We dated for about two months before finally in the summer he made it official. We were happily boyfriend and girlfriend (and sexually active aswell) for a good month and a half. I had gone away to puerto rico for two weeks and everything was fine, totally normal. Then I went away to cheerleading camp for a week and he started acting all weird on the phone and stuff. Finally, he couldn't answer the question if he wanted to be with me or not. I returned to our home town and he kept finding all these reasons as to why he couldnt see me. I knew he wanted to break up, but simply couldnt do it. I also knew it had something to do with his crazy obsessive ex- girlfriend. So i just ended it. we didn't see eachother or talk until school started. We then finally just decided to be friends. All of a sudden his ex girlfriend started threatening me for talking to him. he then ended alllcommunication with her and confessed he still had feelings for me. SO i decided to let him re-gain my trust and maybe we could date again.We ended up going to orlando together with a bunch of friends and Iwas heavily intoxicated so i hooked up with him. no sex though. I got so mad that he would hook up with me when i was drunk because he knew how i felt about it. i texted him saying: I would've never hooked up with you if i wasnt drunk an you know what. bye. and he never answered. we stopped talking and he began to tell all my friends and random people that i hated him. i then confronted him and i told him i was sorry and didnt hate him. he said it was okay but then it was still akward. in class, he willl talk to all of myfriends but COMPLETELY ignore my existence unless i ask him a brief question then he will answer it normally. there is a girl I suspect he likes, she shows up to all the football games with his name and number. Im a cheerleader so i always see. He seems to dangle her right in front of me in class. Is it just me? What does this mean? i've tried giving other guys chances but I can't seem to get over him:(
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reader, hotttmess +, writes (24 November 2010):
hotttmess is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank youu, and yes I am almost sure he cheated on me.( but this chick is wired, she seriously has issues) LOL. but in between all of this i also hooked up with two of his friends while i was drunk:(so i don't know like the whole thing is iffy. who knows...but thank you!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (24 November 2010):
 There's usually only one reason why a guy is normal before you go out of town for a week and then acts awkward when you return. Add the fact that he's young, immature, and there's a crazy ex out there.
He has cheated on you.
Of course, he'll deny it (if he didn't already), but what would propel an ex to suddenly start threatening you after you dated for two months? Usually that only happens if he's cheating with her and telling her disparaging things about you.
This guy is playing you, first with his ex, and now with this new girl. He's not worth a single emotion from you, because he is a player. You do not have to apologize to him, and I suggest you stop apologizing to him, because he is the one who betrayed you.
It's going to be hard, but you have to stop fixating on him, because he does not treat you well. If you're a cheerleader, there are tons of other much more worthy guys out there who would give anything to date you. I bet you anything that there's another guy right now in your circle of friends who has a huge crush on you but hasn't yet made his move. Become emotionally available, and within 6 months, you won't care if this other guy exists.
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