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writes:Hey guys, I'm a female I dated my best friend for more than a half wer year. All of a sudden he stopped talking to me, didn't want to answer my phone calls. He broke my heart. I have a daughter he liked very much just like his own. I stopped calling him. I sent him an e-mail cause I was curious but I didn't ask him as for why he did stop talking to me. I was just trying to say hello and telling him that I missed him. Like it was nothing. He sent me a email saying 'wow! I can see you really like me.' After that I kept on sending him few emails like twice a month, then I stopped emailing him. After a month he wrote me saying why I'm so silent. If everything is ok. before the opening of school 2 weeks ago, he sent me a email wanted to give my daughter money for school shopping. I didn't want to take it but my friend forced me to. When he came by with the money he was so embarrassed, couldn't even get out his car. I asked him, 'can I have at least a hug?' he got out and gave me a hugh while patting my back. Seems like he's scared to stay longer hugging me.Do you think he still needs me? But inside of me I keep on asking myself why he did that to me. Why is he breaking my heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo the very last answer (anonymous female reader)Although the truth hurts but I have to accept the fact that he's not interesting on me anymore. I think I was totally out of tune with reality. You're right on that. The love that he shared with me was sooo real that it impossible for me to believe he doesn't love me anymore. I'm hurt but in the meantime I was curious to know. This man I thought he was my right teetee. but oh well, I'm really hurt. It has been four months since he left. This is the biggest disappointment in my life, probably the last. The reason why? He was my best friend and the last person to hurt me so bad. I was almost killing myself right after he did that to me. Cause I realised I got played since we had sex so many times, but believe me it's not easy. I'm in the process of a total me again although it's gonna stay like a scar. I'm almost there. Thanks guys for your precious thoughts.I guess he probably went back to his ex-girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2007): I think you scared him off. Did you tell him you love him? Or something to the extent that might have been too much too soon for him? I think you are just totally out of tune with reality. Like when you emailed him and he said, "Wow. I can see you really like me." Like that's a mean thing to say! Like basically what he means by that is "jeez I totally blew you off and you have absolutely no dignity and you are still contacting me?!" And even so you kept emailing him! And after he has dropped you the way he did, you insist on a hug from him?!?!? Why are you behaving like that? Why don't you have any dignity and self respect? I mean your behavior to him is coming across as desperate. Like you will let anyone just walk all over you. And that is just a huge turn off. And NO he doesn't need you. It is so obvious with the way he has behaved toward you. I mean what more proof do you need?
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (26 August 2007):
 I would think he has someone else in his life, maybe a wife or a girlfriend. I think he sees you as just a fling, he does have a conscience however. I think this man is weak. If you want a weak man continue to pursue him, if you want a man that loves you, is "in love with you" and will treat you like a Queen, then let this one go. There's 160 million more men in America, there's gotta be one for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2007): This man stopped talking to you all of a sudden, without explanations refusing to answer to calls? How impolite is that? It shows that half of year didn't mean much to him dear, since he sounded surprised to figure out that you liked him. He came and went to his like as if you had discussed from the beginning it would be a no-strings relation. As I said in my other posts, it's not something you mistakenly "neglect" to mention if you want to honestly avoid subsequent confusions. He wasn't honest dear. He taught you in fact that you cannot trust him! That he's a storm that comes and goes, leaving confusion behind. You shouldn't have accepted the money, it can give him the impression he's entitled to claim rights. As if storms had rights, yes. The right to reappear and cause more confusion. Dear, of course there is this other possibility that he is a scared man, scared to committ, bad intentions aside. He has my sympathy if so. But you owe it to your lovely daughter to find a person who would assure a stable environment and teach her values. We... are with you. I think... you can find better. Take care...
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