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writes: Ok me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 7 months and 2 weeks, But but but....We have a odd relationship, we are not allowed to Hold hands, hug, etc. that rule came into effect about 3 months ago and we have remained loyal to her parents wishes. But now im starting to notice she is drifting away from me, ad there are days where i mentally feel single. I want to ask her dad if we can start holding hands and hugging and so on, but she said that we need to wait longr and that some thing is on her mind.... Ok its been 3 months and people think that me and her are just best friends they are oblivious as to the fact that we are dating. i feel like her best friend. God knows i love her with all my heart but how and i supposed to date this girl when i can only see her twice a week, and not hug her, hold her hand, or kiss her. i would really like to see someone answer this. Yes i know clearly what 1st Corinthians 13 says, i know that love will prevail but im getting awful discouraged and im feeling pushed away by her. Please i beg you people with noggins on your shoulders. Help a brother out. by that way im 16 and my girlfriend is 15.
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reader, hugs2muchgal  +, writes (8 August 2006):
 hey i totally know how you feel!
im a 15 year old girl and my 16 year old boyfriend has really protective parents and so do i
whenever his or my parents might be around he and i have no contact, and thats the majority of the time on our "dates" (meaning we watch movies at someone's house since i cant go driving with him)
also he has been gone for 2 months now with our only contact being a 5 minute phone call here or there
the physical stuff is really important, trust me.
if you really love her, try to stay with her with the rules given to you, but im going to be honest
i love my boyfriend, but without being able to touch him at all, or see him like i cant right now, it doesnt seem worth it.
now when he comes back for me it will get better, but for you, if it wont get better, then it doesnt seem worth it.
be her best friend not her boyfriend, and when her father allows her to be in a real relationship try again with her if you both still want to. its better than torturing youself over a girl who is so close, yet so far at the same time.
good luck with her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2006): Fortunately, I am not Christian, nor am I religious. So this 'advice' may not apply to you. However, you can 'listen' if you wish...
First and foremost, a large part of love is physical. At that age, you and your girlfriend most likely does not have a solid mentality, experience in anything, refined aspect of your personalities, and interests are still quite premature. Since you two might be lacking in these areas, then it is very likely that you two will drift apart without the physical contact to keep you two together.
(To the rest of the teens that come here: See what I'm getting at here?)
Anyway, unlike the Bible, I do not believe love prevails. If it does, 'we' wouldn't 'need' the Bible in the first place. 8]
So that's about it really. Only 'other' thing you can continue to do, is talk with her, share your emotions, your feelings, try to go out with her, support her, encourage her to do the things she want to do, be there for her, hear her out, realize her dreams, and so on and so forth.
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