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female
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36-40,
*essieboo
writes:neither my boyfriend or I can orgasm thoughsex,manual sex or oral - only with ourselves lol.We are very much in love, very comfortablewith each other and very open. He is slightlyolder and pretty experienced (used to be a bit of a player lol)- usually just happy the other person to come.Same with me and my ex I faked it all the time -just happy to make him come!!(we both didn't wantto lie to each other and fake it etc when starting thisnew relationship as we both feel it's a veryvery longterm thing- so we wanted to be open)The thing is is that the sex is pretty good- it feels great, wereboth pretty hot haha, and we both know what we are doing- we just can't come.At first it was great finding someone with a similar problemnot feeling like a freak!! But no it'd getting a little frustrating!! Are we over thinking it? Or are we just to focusedon pleasing the other ?! What can we do?! Thanks heaps :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2009): You say your bf use to be a player and is very experienced but he might be experienced having sex, with other persons but is he experienced in pleasing??, there is a difference, having sex alot is one but doing it right is another, and besides every woman is different, as well as men, so no matter how experienced he is , he still has to learn how to please a different woman, you also need to learn your body , and maybe you should try not to think of sex as orgasms, explore a little, try to think of something else, and also there are things you can use to help stimulate your clitoris and his penis to help you climax, so pass by a sex store and pick up a few things, but you could be right about over thinking it so relax, and maybe since you faked it so much its hard to really achieve one, but you must keep in mind that both parties need to work, a man, nor woman doesnt get an orgasm all by them self during intercourse you both have a part top play, so get in touch with your bodies, another important point, i am not so sure if your bf had this problem a long time, but if he always had this he needs to check it out it can also be a type of erectile dysfunction, not very common but it exists, where a man is able to get and maintain an erection, but not ejaculate, or take very long. good luck
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