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writes:I have been with the same guy for three and a half years, and most of the time we are happy. Sometimes we have these massive fights however, and they can end in a "break up" (which doesn't last) or just a break. We have had two proper breakups which have lasted up to a year.The fights we have are over silly things, I think we are both quite stubborn and unwilling to change. But sometimes I wonder if its because were really just not meant to be together at all... A lot of the time we make each other so happy, but why do things keep on going wrong? Does it mean that were just not meant to be together?I love him, but i'm so confused.
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reader, Midge +, writes (15 April 2007):
 Couples always fight. Its an age old tradition, but its what the fights are about that matters. If its a trust or honesty issue, forget it and move on. If you've tried a few times to get back together over trust or honesty issues, it just isnt gonna happen.
If your arguements are over silly things that are of no material consequence, then I suggest the two of you see a councillor and make things work.
Most couples sometimes need a little "time out". It makes them think straight without the added pressure of having to deal with their partner at the same time.
However, if you are wanting to make a go of things with him, then you need to figure out a way of dealing with you both being so stubborn waiting for the other to apologize, which never happens! A councillor will be able to advise you on this point!
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