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writes: i feel pretty miserable..my ex and i broke up about two years ago and ever since then i am just not happy. I still miss him dearly. We have been talking for almost a year now on the phone.I am 25 and still live at home..i'm sure there are alot of people who do..things can be expensive and sometimes i feel like money can be saved rather than have 3 roomates and make ends meet where i am living. But ever since the break up i know i am just not happy..i have done things to keep busy..i have traveled, met a new friend that i hang out with, joined a team..but despite that i am just not happy. I feel jealous of a few of my friends who met the person at age 20 or even younger and are still with them. Sometimes i get angry because they want to hang out on a off night and just go to dinner or whatever. Inside i am thinking i bet they would want to go to more singles places if they were in my position..being an atmosphere where you know for sure you won't meet anyone kind of makes me feel we are really in different places. One time my friend took me to a gay bar near by because the food was great..it was nice to see her but in my head i am thinking..you know i am single why did you bring me here.I even joined a dating site to begin dating again..i must have met over 10 people in the past year or so..i just didn't like them though and some there was just nothing there..which made me miss my ex even more..like look what i had and don't have anymore..Another thing is i am miserable with my parents..i just get very moody and i know at times i am right and others i am wrong. I think living at home changes the dynamic. You are going to be in a better mood and more appreciative if you don't see them every night.Also with this living situation, i just try to take advantage of being in the apartment alone..even if its a nice day..i will lay on the couch with my coffee and watch my dvr shows.I feel like alot of people i know get up early and do this or do that and also with their significant other..i don't meet guys randomly like alot of other people i know do. And i am not interested in making 20 new friends just to keep busy. I don't know how to enjoy being with my parents without feeling that empty feeling because i don't have someone special. I know that person isn't supposed to complete you and i think i am smart in some ways because i don't just date random guys to pass time. But that is the truth. I almost feel angry when i am with my parents when i don't have someone special. I feel like i would enjoy their company even more if i was still with my boyfriend..i would just be happier all around. I know it sounds stupid and silly but that is how i am feeling and i don't know what to do.I am jealous of my friends living situation..one said oh be thankful ur single..i wish i was at times..i feel like that is such a cop out..if you really feel that way..then break up..but i tell her not to and say you are the one that's pretty lucky.I know i will regret it later in life but its how i feel..for a very long time.Does anyone have advice?
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Prion is absolutely right. Listen to her.
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (20 June 2010):
 dont laze about at home. get a couple of girl friends and go out together :) usualy guys are around who will take an interest, just get dressed and up and im sure you will grab some attention :)
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