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writes:My boyfriend and I broke up nearly two years ago. We were together for 7 years. He jumped into another relationship almost immediately, and told me that he did that to hurt me. The problem is during these last two years we havent stopped talking to each other, thru emails txt messages and sometimes phone calls. I have asked him in the past if he is still with her, but has never really given me a frim yes or no. He says he wants me to understand how much I hurt him. He wants me to understand that nobody has hurt me as much as i have, and tells me how much he loved me, and we end up placing blame and fighting alot.I ask you, why does he do this? Why does he still keep in contact with me knowing how much i miss him. Should i let him keep doing this, with hopes that he comes home? Or do i move on? and how do i break my self of this addiction i seem to have when it comes to talking to him....i cant stay away....What do i do?
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (7 August 2012):
 If you can't stay away, there is some part of you that enjoys this turmoil. You have to ask yourself why you would stay with someone who wants to hurt you instead of moving on.
My advice would be to get out, do some new things, meet some new people, or get a hobby to get this guy off your mind. You need other things in your life to distract you from constantly running back to him. Trust me, I've been there and it isn't worth wasting your time and emotional energy on someone like this (especially at our age when we deserve better). Just talking to my neighbors helped me get my ex off of my mind. He was hurtful as well and I began to notice how relaxed I would get when I would actually be around people who were decent and caring individuals.
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