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writes:I finished with my lover because our relationship wasn't going anywhere. I was with him 2 years but i wanted more then what he could give me.Now he keeps txting me saying he cant sleep and that he is suffering from depression,i feel guilty and i dont know what to do? I told him to go to the doctors but he said that he didn't have the time.Is he trying to get my sympathy vote?
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reader, Toria +, writes (25 September 2006):
 In one simple answer.. Yes he is!!! You need to make sure he knows you aren't going back to him and that he needs to move on from it, explain to him again the reason you two split up, maybe being away from you has made him realise that he does want the same things as you and wants to give you what you are wanting from a relationship but if that is the case think hard about whether you want to take the chance that he may just say he does so you go back to him.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Yos  +, writes (25 September 2006):
 He's trying to get you back. The best thing you can do is to be 100% clear that you will not get back to him. As long as you give him any mixed messages he's going to go on thinking there is a chance. And as long as he thinks there might be a chance he's not going to let go and move on. And until he moves on he's going to keep on suffering.
So tell him to stop contacting you, and that you are finished with him. Then don't respond to any of his texts and don't answer the phone if he calls (and just delete his voicemails without listening to them). He'll realize that it really is over, and then start with the process of getting on with his life.
Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.
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