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*heerwhore23
writes:My ex boyfriend and I tried to settle on being just friends..the only reason why we broke up is because we fought wayy too much. Anyways..We were both at a party and everyone got super drunk and i ended up having sex with his best friend..who i had a crush on about a year ago..after i realized what i had done i rushed over to my ex to tell him so he would hear it from me first..i felt so gross and terrible..before i got to tell him he pretty much broke down and told me how much he missed me and loved me still..i couldnt keep a secret from him so i just told him what happened...he wasnt mad at all..he said "if it were anyone else i'd be super pissed" so things were good and we were gonna try to work things out again..he started to ignore me so i just stopped trying. a few weeks later we ran into each other at another party and he ended up texting me that next day...he asked me why i would hurt him so badly and why i did what i did..i really didnt know that i hurt him and i didnt mean to...i honestly love him and im willing to do anything in the world to get him back..i need advice on how to handle the situation..should i try to talk to him...or give him some space...please help..
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reader, Beautifulboy +, writes (9 November 2012):
you dont love him. if you did you wouldnt have screwed his best friend. the act itself with his best friends proves you dont love him the way you think and secondly, having sumbody other than your bfs penis going into your vagina proves no love. that is sacred between 2 ppl that love each other. what it seems like to me is your just young and you dont know what you want an ur fixated on the thought of love i mean geeez your talking about a crush you had on him. i tie the word "crush" into a teenage thinking mental capacity. your still young.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2012): Nice username OP.
OP you're young and while I have no doubt you're not going to to listen to me or follow my advice you will learn eventually what it means to be not compatible with someone and that no matter what ytou try it will never work. When you don't get along with someone OP it's never going to work, the fact that you're on/off with this guy and you're always fighting means you're not compatible with him, end of story.
If I were you I'd move on now, but we both know you're not going to well there's no fix for this kind of thing there is no magic solution, because having strong feelings for someone is not enough.
Good luck OP, it's going to be a long few months/years for you if you don't let go of this guy and the hope that it can somehow work. I can guarantee you and all the other aunts and uncles here will tell you the exact same, you have no future with this guy, you're not compatible and it's never, ever going to work.
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