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writes:Me and my girlfriend split up after 3 and a half years of being together, with a 4 month break up in between. The first time we broke up, she broke up with me and she contacted me on my birthday telling me how she felt about me, after a month of contemplating the idea I realized she's the girl I want in my life. Now we've been going out for 3 months and we broke up because the fighting was constant, the pent-frustration and resentment of unresolved issues go to us. Now its been two weeks since our break up and deep down I miss her and I feel if we both tried again maybe it could work and believe she has tried equally in our relationship. So 3 days ago I decided that I'm tired of this childish games of who breaks first and power struggle that all relationships live by when they break up. I told myself I need to be mature of the situation.. So I called her to hang out, we did and she told how's it been and for me too. She has an apartment for herself for two weeks and she's been mostly partying everyday and I told her is there anyone you like and she responded that she likes people and flirted but nothing more and it hurt, but I shrugged it off. The day came to an end, really no progress, but before she left, I told her how I felt and how much she means to me and how much I missed her, her response was "that it meant a lot I told her that, but she's still hurt of our fighting and arguing and confused and needs time to think" we kissed and hugged. So now by me telling you my situation, do you believe we'll possibly have a chance to go back out again??
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (13 August 2011):
 One way forward is to resolve those unresolved issues. That is a positive start.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2011): I think while she is out having fun, you should do exactly the same. You need to go out and do things that you love instead of staying at home hoping she will be back. Don't ever try to contact her, she will start missing you and contact you first. It happened to me once dear! If you acted cold and cool she would realise how much she needs you. Then the decision will be yours.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (13 August 2011):
 I think that there is a chance but in the end unless you can actually find a solution to the arguements the relationship will never go anywhere. I beleive that you have tried and that it is probably best to move on from her and find a fresh start with someone else.
It sounds like she is out doing her own thing while you are at home hoping that you two will get back together. It takes both parties to do so, so instead of hurting yourself by getting back together with her and then going through another break up you should allow yourself to heal and get on from your life.
This doesn't mean those years were wasted but it just wasn't meant to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2011): This relationship won't work. Forget about it. If will hurt u of course, you will miss her and she will miss you. It will take time but you will feel better after a while trust me .
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